<p>Hotpiece, I accidentally found Carson's myspace. So I made one and messaged him and we talked for a bit but then the convo died. He went on vacation. He's back. I got bored of him (seemed impossible, but true). So I'm right back where I started. But I wonder how I will react if I ever see him again (which is unlikely, but his friends go to my school). Hah.</p>
<p>slurpz, i realize that your response is completely appropriate based on the thread. but i made a statement about having sex and it was also appropriate to the thread discussion. i was still banned though. i would just hate for anyone to be banned from cc.</p>
<p>jerks may "get the girl" but they don't keep them, they go through them and each girl may think she is the one to "fix" him, and I married a nice guy, who is also funny, charming, assertive, we women need to seperate the two- a guy can be all the things we want without being a jerk</p>
<p>And girls that are attracted to jerks, well, get what they deserve and shouldn't complain about him, which they do, ad nauseum, even though they have chosen the a&&</p>
<p>parents need to stay off these forums</p>
<p>hahaha</p>
<p>i agree with citygirlsmom, though. based on what i've seen at my school, the jerks hook up with girls, but the nice guys are in committed relationships. i guess it depends on what you want. i'd go with the latter, personally, but then i'm not attracted to the really masculine/aggressive guys either.</p>
<p>Not all masculine/aggressive guys are jerks, you know.</p>
<p>no, i know that... masculine/aggressive is not a subset of jerk, but jerk is (usually!) a subset of masculine/aggressive. ;)</p>
<p>it's just not my type. i wasn't trying to generalize; sorry if it came across that way.</p>
<p>well the classy/smart(notnerdy) guys don't get the girls</p>
<p>^ eh. that depends.</p>
<p>if your classy/smart and confident/assertive, i'm sure you can get the girl. at least, this girl.</p>
<p>agreed. .</p>
<p>ok actually, to make a confession, i'm pretty smart in terms of grades and whatnot.. but i'm not exactly VERY classy.. i mean, i had the classy/smart girl read my college essays that declared my love for rap music, even tho i knew she absolutely detested rap/techno. Also, i probably screwed up cause when she told me over AIM that she liked to stay home and read instead of partying (classy), i misinterpreted her message for that she DIDN'T like staing home. so i pretty much said i hated staying at home... which is partly true, mostly false. so ya, really screwed up there.</p>
<p>The girl is also in my english class, again, very classy/goodlooking.. then i'm the one doing the crazy english presentations (at least i got very good marks), but then no matter how much my presentations standout, she still manages to get better marks!</p>
<p>oh, IVY, she may still be into you. my ex-boyfriend did a lot of stupid stuff in an attempt to impress me. but, he didn't have to, i was already impressed. so maybe the same is true for you.</p>
<p>Listen to your instinct, and do the exact opposite. If it worked for George Costanza, it can work for you.</p>
<p>My ex did stupid stuff to impress me and when I found out he was doing it just to impress me I got ****ed. Being yourself is a better idea.</p>
<p>Assertive, and confident guys will get the quick *<strong><em>. What do most guys want in this day and age? The quick *</em></strong>. :)</p>
<p>yes, jerky guys do get a lot of girls. Exceedingly lame, but very true. Girls go for cocky and assertive. On behalf of my entire gender, let me just say, sorry about that. There are a lot of really nice guys out there who deserve cool girls and don't get them because of that. </p>
<p>On the other hand though, the male half of the species seems to go for the skanks, at least in my experience. So I guess we're even:)</p>
<p>You have to remember that some girls don't like sensative/nice guys because they happen to have dominant personalities and therefore require a masculine/assertive guy.</p>
<p>Hell yea, skanks! :D LOL</p>
<p>In all seriousness, being too nice just gets you in the friend zone, whether you want that or not. Back in the day, this friend zone guy was the caveman who was sociable and nice and took care of the cavewoman's baby despite the fact that the Arnold Schwartzeneggar caveman fathered it.</p>
<p>yeah, i know what you mean tropical. i had this one guy friend who wanted to be more than friends, but he was so nice that i only saw him as a friend.</p>