<p>I think it is a good idea for the OP’s D to speak with the roomie’s dad. I am sure the man just wants to know what happened. Obviously the roomie is sending off warning signals to her parents and Dad is just trying to get some fact on the incident. I am sure that any parent that had a child showing mental issues would want to hear from others what has been going on with their kids</p>
<p>OP if your daugther does not feel comfortable meeting the Dad alone have her take a friend along. </p>
<p>Again my wishes that this works out for both girls.</p>
<p>I advocate for a young woman(M) with severe mental illness (her parents are gone) and I would absolutely want to speak to the roommate first. When in the grips of mania, what M believes is true and what is actual reality will have only a vague resemblence to each other. </p>
<p>OP – I do agree that your daughter’s safety is paramount and I would strongly advise getting her out of there at least until the end of the semester and you can look at breaking the least at semester.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, this is a topic I’m very familiar with… and there is not much that can be done if you live in an off campus apartment. To move the girl out, besides the parents simply removing the girl from the situation and taking her home, a restraining order must be filed… This is the only way that the girl can be forcefully removed. However, a restraining order doesn’t necessarily mean that the person who is threatening the victim is really going to stay away. A restraining order is just a piece of paper, and it can aggravate someone (especially someone with a mental illness) and can cause them to retaliate. Situations like this are scary and must be handled very carefully. I recommend that your student moves out of the apartment immediately. Typically, even though leasing offices cannot make the student who is causing problems move to a different apartment, or evict them (this is VERY hard, sometimes impossible, to do), they will move the other roommate(s) who are suffering to a different unit for free. I recommend that your daughter does this if the other roommate ends up staying, even after talking with her parents. Like other posters have said, your daughter should not have to stay in that situation. It is obvious that the roommate’s behavior is unpredictable and it is unfair to put her in the situation where she essentially has to monitor her roommate’s behavior. Campus health services and/or police will not be able to help, as your lease was probably signed with an entity not associated with the school. I am so sorry that both you and your daughter have to go through this, as I have suffered through it before and it is terrible. I am anxiously awaiting an update from you.</p>
<p>One is really never stuck ina lease- esp if your daughter s safery and peace of mind are
at rsik . I would do something SOONER rather than LATER - situations does not sound as if it is going to improve
and who know s just what one is capable of? esp if they are troubled which it appers is the case with romate
ACT NOW ! I would consider this situation to be urgent and adress asap
Gd LK</p>