<p>You're only ugly if you think you are. Get positive, dude. Maximize what you have.</p>
<p>Having said what I did, I feel compelled to share an experience I had today. I have a summer job at a local deli btw. </p>
<p>I was working, cleaning this juice machine thingy ma jingy. And it was really annoying cause it's made to look good, not to be easy to clean. Anyway Im cleaning this thing, and I look up and see this guy. And he's not ***<em>ed that I didnt even see him for a good few minutes. He all hey, how are you... and are you feeling ok... I have to tell you, he's a regular customer, and honestly I never gave him a second look. But the fact that he waited for me to be done and then looked genuinely concerened and asked how *I</em> was doing melted my heart. Now, out of no where I'm thinking you know he looks kinda sexy and fidning his clothes tasteful... </p>
<p>just something to think about</p>
<p>For the looks thing - I think that a lot of girls want some basic standards (shower, shaves, wears clean clothes that don't clash) and some threshold of looks... but, once you pass that fairly low bar, it's all personality, intellect, and how you treat her.</p>
<p>^^ us and you guys don;t want a guy that showers shaves and wears clothes that don't clash</p>
<p>ih0pitalrules.......could you please fix your grammar and correct your typos...i seriously have the hardest time understanding what in the world you're trying to say!...not to be mean or anything....just honestly.</p>
<p>but...yeah....girls want a descent guy that takes care of himself....but i've noticed....females are alot more "personality sensative." It's not about how positive you are about your own looks or what not...moreso how you treat the girl, what you're interested in, if she has fun talking to you/being with you....i mean...naturally...no1 wants to be with some1 that's always like "i'm so ugly...i don't know why you're with me"...it's just plain annoying....but if you make her feel beautiful, she'll make you feel attractive...and it doesn't really matter how you percieve yourself...it's how others percieve you...so don't think you're "ugly"</p>
<p>nahrasfsa, Its harder to communicate when you cant protray tone. Ne way the point I was trying to get across was that guys just want basic standards also...</p>
<p>edit: btw, its L'hopitalrules, as in the calc theorem</p>
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and it doesn't really matter how you percieve yourself...it's how others percieve you...
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I agree, but also disagree. How you perceive yourself dictates your body language which, in turn, has a big influence on how others perceive you.</p>
<p>nice post...also nice replies from everyone (except for the guy wih the grammar issues). btw...can I also ask evryodies advice? Also about my relationship with my girlfriend. Us two have going steady for 4 months now. Everything is going fine (there ae a few bumps on the road but we flattened those issues now). But this march, she had to go fo a 3 months assignment to another country. When I learned this, I was a bit worried since I and my girl doesn't know what to do in a long distance relationship. Oh sure you could send e-mails and such but we are a very physical (by physical i dont mean sexual guys) and I myself have some issues with chatting. Chatting thru a messager (Yahoo messenger for example) feels very cold to me and I have problems communicating thru this type of medium. Calling is also out of the question since I can't afford the phone bill. We are having problems communicating thru maails and messagers. And now she is getting cold...She knows that I have feelings for her but im starting to doubt whether she still feels for me. (I read somewhere here that girls have problems sharin their feelings...do i know what that guy is talking about)..any thoughts and suggestions?? any replies will be appreciated... =(</p>
<p>Perfectfourth, don't waste away any more time over this loser. She "dumped" you in the most ridiculous, cowardly way ever - by trying to avoid it altogether. She didn't even have the dignity and good grace to tell you straight-up. The way she just ignored you and ran away was so mature. Ugh. gross. (Guys do that crap all the time, though).</p>
<p>Anyhow, sorry about your situation. I can empathize with you, really.</p>
<p>Worst case scenario: she likes another guy
If that's the case, then whatever - you don't want her anyway.
Be friends, sure. Go to Cornell, pick up someone else, it'll be great.</p>
<p>In the meantime, act indifferently towards her - certainly don't chase her down. Don't be mean, don't be nice. Hang out with other people. If she doesn't think she has you on a lockdown, who knows, maybe she'll regret being a a$$h0le. </p>
<p>PM me if you'd like.</p>
<p>no more "waterworks!!!"</p>