<p>He's just been really stressed lately and I understand that. That's pretty much what it is. We talked about it last night. So that's why its been how it has been lately. Otherwise, our relationship has been great. We have taken a break before when he was at NAPS and we know that its okay to be friends but its better if we are together. Because he is so far away, he's not a very big influence on my choices. I'm who I am because of me and not him. I'm not having where he goes to school influece where I want to go. I understand that its hard and I'm willing to be by his side.
Thanks momoftwins for the link!</p>
<p>On the topic of relationships, how about you service academy candidates right now? Trying to keep up any relationships? Trying to just stay out of them? Perhaps having fun playing the field before you leave? Haha. That last one sounds tempting... ;)</p>
<p>Bill - You old crumudgen! LOL You really do need a vacation someplace warm with alot of Cragganmore. C'mon over to SC & I'll fix you up. My treat. Let me know what dates you have available. You need to get outta there for a few days. "There is a fine line between negativity and reality" you said. Easily said and its true to someone of our advanced years. But these are the worries of the tender young and as such haven't had the time on this earth that we all have to learn from experiences. I wish I'd known then, what I know now kinda thing. I don't mean to smile or make light of what you believe. I just can't help it. I find your wee little black heart charming as can be. </p>
<p>It never occured to me that chocolate dulls the pain. That burst my bubble. I just thought it makes one happy is all. Dark truffles make me stop and go WOW. Bill, I woke up again today(we've all got a story). Its all good. When you coming over? And you leave the young tender hearts to the Moms! Crumugen! Crusty old Grinch!</p>
<p>Bill0510: First off, you show a lot of empathy and concern for a grouchy, drained-of-blood attorney. Your stepping out of character has reinforced Jamzmom's belief that, down deep, everyone is a softy. Better stop yourself now or you'll be self-medicating with chocolate before the end of the week. </p>
<p>navygirl88: (Gosh that name looks familiar.) My dad once told me never to expect someone to be logical when they're in love. So I won't. </p>
<p>By now you've hear them say it cant work. Everyone from your parents to the girl who cuts your hair has told you that long distance relationships are a bad idea. When youre involved in one you miss out on so much. And all long distance relationships are doomed to fail. So turn off your heart, turn on your head and look for love where you are. Thats what everyone says. The advice is logical and emperically proven to be correct.</p>
<p>But you're in love and the lover's heart has little room for logic. Love doesn't have an on/off switch that is easily flipped.</p>
<p>Will Aspen provide the sage insight you seek and need? No way. For as a father of two teenage sons, I have learned first hand the truth of the axiom: Good advice is wasted on the young.</p>
<p>Instead, I will pray that you surround yourself with good friends. Whichever way your relationship goes, you will need good friends.</p>
<p>Take care.</p>
<p>A heart that loves is always young.
~ by A Greek Proverb ~ </p>
<p>Love is like war,
Easy to begin but hard to end.
~ by Anonymous ~</p>
<p>Some things to think about...</p>
<p>I take all monikers with pride.</p>
<p>"Being poised and self-confident is attractive; clinging and whining isn't."
I have been both; I have dated both. You are right on the money.
I remember a young lady whose heart I broke; she wanted to be married so badly. I remember another young lady who walked away from me in a heartbeat; I still think fondly of her.
My wife was a balance of both, but she did cut me off early in our dating career until I straightened up.</p>
<p>dictatoranna- just playing the field before i leave. yes it is very tempting. not trying to start anything that will last past june 28.</p>
<p>dictatoranna- well I'm dating a guy I met at NASS, and we're not sure what we're gonna do if he gets in, cuz I got NAPS so we're just kinda seeing how it goes but we're pretty sure we can make it work!! We're gonna try!!</p>
<p>thats the spirit wisconsinavy2010. everyones relationship is different and no one truly knows except for you. its good to be optimistic and it great your gonna try. so if this guy is worth it, its definitely worth a shot. good luck!</p>
<p>I'm going to USMA, but I thought i'd share my input. I've got a girlfriend who I've been with for a long time that I'm going to do my best to keep while i'm at West Point. I understand how the odds are that it wont work out and everything, but i think that it'll be a moral booster to have a girl at home to think about, while it might be hard i'm sure its alot harder to meet girls as a cadet/midshipman than it is to keep an old girlfriend. Just my thoughts, goodluck NavyGirl stay strong.</p>
<p>Thanks mumford2009! Good luck to you too! I hope the best for you even though you are going to USMA, no hard feelings. Good luck with your relationships and schooling!</p>
<p>"i think that it'll be a moral booster to have a girl at home to think about, while it might be hard i'm sure its alot harder to meet girls as a cadet/midshipman than it is to keep an old girlfriend." mumford</p>
<p>Well, I must admit that you are very perceptive and candid. Unfortunately that is just what many girlfriends end up being, just another member of your personal cheerleading squad (along with parents, siblings, relatives, and friends). Since approximately 2 percent of these relationships survive ones' tenure at the service academies, who truly benefits from this arrangement? Instead of a "morale booster," I would hope that you had a deep friendship with your girlfriend and absolutely couldn't live without each other.</p>
<p>Alright, I'll let this one out. My boyfriend goes to USMMA, and I haven't spoken about him much because I know he wouldn't appreciate it all that much (sorry Jamzmom!). We've been together for over a year, and it just about broke my heart when he left. We are very, very close. All of our friends say we have the weirdest relationship, basically we're just wild and crazy all the time and we were amazed when we met because we can match eachother's energy levels (which is impressive). I didn't get to see him for four months, and that was very hard. When he came back home again, we had a blast. We've discovered that life is what you make it, being apart is hard but its making us stronger. We're much closer now than when he left. Now especially since I am probably going to end up at USMA, we are going to see eachother even less. Navygirl, my advice is to stay in the relationship as long as it works for both of you. As long as you are still happy, don't worry about what everyone else has to say. We trust each other a lot, which is necessary for a long distance relationship. My best advice is just to be positive and encouraging. That doesn't mean you are his personal cheerleader though! It is still like a normal relationship for me, I depend on him for moral support too! The hardest part for me, although I know its true, is that if its meant to work out it will, and if its not, it won't. If you want any more advice, or just to talk send me a PM.</p>
<p>This thread is ridiculous. Geesh Navygirl--did you really expect to get some insight here?</p>
<p>Yes, your boyfriend is busy.
No, he's not so busy that he couldn't make the time to call you if he really wanted to.<br>
A good way to deal with it would be to agree to see other people, and see how that feels. I am willing to wager a lot of money that your boyfriend would agree to this proposal.<br>
Oh yeah, and if you think this is tough, wait until he's deployed, at war, etc .
Your problem isn't specific to having a USNA boyfriend. It happens ANYTIME people go off to college. Isn't that what Reese Witherspoon was trying to avoid when she followed her boyfriend to law school in "Legally Blonde?"</p>
<p>Bill0510---I didn't know you were a lawyer. Maybe you can get me a job. Otherwise, I guess it's off to the JAG Corps . . . </p>
<p>DeepThroat</p>
<p>Yes we have taken broken up before while he was at NAPS and we realized eventhough he was far away we still wanted to be together. I know he's going to be deployed and what not in the future and I'm willing to stick it out. People have done this and the whole reason I posted this was to see if those people were out there to give me a little advice on how they made it work. And another thing, I'm definitely not following him when it comes to my college choices. Like I said earlier him being on the eas coast did not influence where I wanted to apply. I stayed to west coast and will probably be attending UC Berkely. Which is one of my dreams to actually go there.
I was hoping to get more insight from actual couples, but oh well...</p>
<p>Whaaaaaaaaaaa.....
Married to a grad, met him after he graduated. If it's not been said before the saying goes, "If the Navy wanted him to have a (girlfriend..wife) they would have issued him one."
Let's just say that the number of USNA relationships that resulted in marriage right after graduation...many have not made it the distance.
You think Academy life is difficult on a relationship? Let's try 20 months of deployment in the first three years of marriage.
Get a life little one! He's got other things on his mind than to worry about your insecurities.</p>
<p>wow yea hmmm....get a life wait a second i already have one. i don't spend all my time going boo hoo my boyfriend isn't here waaa waaa. okay someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed. In the past two years altogher he's been home about 2 months so i've gon 22 months without him in 2 years. i guess you can say thats a lot. also what insecurities might you be talking about? just wondering?
thanks for your wonderful words of wisdom CGA09! really.
i really didn't want to resort to responding to replies like this. oh well...</p>
<p>Ah...... The memories......</p>
<p><smirk></smirk></p>
<p>Come on now '91....spill your guts! ;)</p>
<p>Navygirl,
UC Berkeley woo hoo! I hope you get in because its a great schooltop public university in the nation/world (my daughter was accepted there and received an NROTC scholarship to Calmany of her friends are there now). Great football team too. It was her second choice after USNA. Ive changed my mind. Dump the mid and take advantage of all Cal and the San Francisco Bay area/Berkeley/Napa/Lake Tahoe have to offer! Youre gonna have so much fun! Go Bears!</p>