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Ifsomething isn't right in my home, it isn't right at college, either.
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Hmmm. I think if we take this view, we perhaps ought to know why it is that we do. Do we know why it isnt right for our kids to sleep with their significant others at home (or in college, for that matter)?</p>
<p>When I was 20, I fell head over heels for a handsome man. It was serious, headed toward marriage. After a year of steady dating, my mother, who had a rule about not bringing boyfriends into the family, invited him to stay for a weekend.</p>
<p>When he left, my father took me aside and quietly said, "You cannot marry that man. He will never be faithful to you. He is too handsome. He has the kind of looks that attract too many women." I was indignant. That man adored me, but sure enough, a year later, I found a reason to pull away from him. We both went on to other loves. I fell in love with my husband two years later.</p>
<p>I talked to my first love about a year ago. He was getting married for the SIXTH time. He has no children of his own. </p>
<p>My dad was right. Even though I thought I wasn't listening to his fuddy duddy advice--my subconcious must have listened!</p>
<p>Give her a semester to make her own mistakes. If, by Christmas, the boyfriend is still lingering, then consider a frank word.</p>
<p>One reason not to allow quasi-married teenagers to sleep as a married couple is to avoid giving an endorsement of marriage. I live in a nation where teenagers routinely move into one another's homes to share childhood bedrooms. It's not a good look when the 17 or 19 year olds break up. Kids don't have the emotional maturity to cope with divorce.</p>
<p>We haven't had an older 'couple' visit yet, but for the youngsters, I say, find a stolen moment in your car, in the country, at the beach, at home when H and I are not in the house. There is plenty of time to be married, in my experience, ;) . No reason to rush into marital beds at 18.</p>
<p>Off the original topic somewhat, and probably an ignorant 1960's-type question, but are non-students actually allowed to spend nights and weekends in their BF or GF's college dorms? Aside from the whole be-fair-to-your-roomate thing, I would think that it would be a security/liability issue. Or, is it just OK as long as no one finds out?</p>
<p>My daughter always had a single room in the dorms at her school so having guests wasn't a problem.( even when she had a roommate- they lived in a two bedroom-two bath town house- so lots of room) She did have several friends as guests, usually when they were on their way to or from their colleges that had different calendars.
guests had to be approved by roommates, and could not stay for longer than 14 days per semester.
Guests also need to be registered with the college community safety office.
The dorm insurance should cover guests, just as your homeowner would cover guests I imagine & they certainly pay enough in fees to cover an ins premium ;)</p>
<p>Most schools that we visited and the one DS attends now, the rule is that you have to sign in a guest and they can stay up to three consecutive days...they let the students work out the whole fair to your roommate thing.</p>