<p>here is a helpful link someone posted:
<a href="http://www.usnews.com/usnews/edu/college/articles/brief/03waitlist_brief.php%5B/url%5D">http://www.usnews.com/usnews/edu/college/articles/brief/03waitlist_brief.php</a></p>
<p>also, remember the most important part is to show them things that they don't already know about you/have overlooked, that you think make you an asset to the school! so show them how awesome you all are!!</p>
<p>should i call the school and tell them how much i love brown and how brown is still my number one choice... or should i just send a letter to them? if i should call.. who do i ask to speak to?</p>
<p>So, I wanted to run this by the board here.</p>
<p>The top schools that I got into are Dartmouth, Georgetown, Amherst, Swarthmore, and Middlebury. I don't really like Brown any better than any of those, and probably below some.</p>
<p>I feel slightly reluctant to take my name off the waiting list because there is no cost to stay on. However, it is the RIGHT thing to do.</p>
<p>SO, convince me why I should. Please, don't do it selfishly because you want the list to be smaller, but I need encouragement to give up Rhode Island.</p>
<p>Thanks,
Nickleby</p>
<p>Think about how you would feel if you were to be in our position. If you had a top choice school and were waitlisted their wouldn't you hope that people that don't want to be there would give up their place. </p>
<p>That being said, if you feel like you would like Brown better than all your other schools then I would have no problem with you staying on the list. I don't know if you are trying to prove something by staying on the list or if there are other reasons. </p>
<p>I do want to get in, but if you are offered admission wouldn't you give it up? If you gave up a theoretically offered spot that wouldn't essentially be harming us. </p>
<p>What are you looking for in a school? Why does Brown not fit this and other schools do better?</p>
<p>When my mom was waitlisted at NYU Law, she began calling the admissions office every day. Finally, after about 2 weeks of this, they got so sick of hearing from her that they offered her a spot that had just opened up. And she went to NYU and met my dad and married him and divorced him 14 years later and so the rest is history. </p>
<p>And now for the moral of the story: Show as much interest as you possibly can. At this point, it really truly can't hurt.</p>
<p>Nickleby - Look at it this way: By taking your name off of the waitlist, you are, in a sense, putting a past disappointment behind you and focusing on the bright future ahead. Better that you get uber excited about the school you decide to go to than you slip back and wonder if you still have a shot at Brown.</p>
<p>If you read The Gatekeepers, it tells about one waitlisted kid who sent a postcard every day with a reason why he should get into Wesleyan. He eventually got in.</p>
<p>Lauren and Spoon, thanks both for your comments that I can see came from the heart. I do understand the situation you are in with your desire for Brown, and I think that this is a door that I should close.</p>
<p>That said, It won't make a difference doing it today or in a week. What I won't do is wait to do the inevitable until April 30.</p>
<p>Best of luck,
Nickleby</p>
<p>Best of luck to you, too, Nickleby! I would really love to see you at Brown next year... Let us know where you end up, and definitely keep posting on the Brown boards!</p>
<p>Thank you, and you are doing the right thing in making your own decision. You can send in your decision not to attend whenever you want before the 1st. I hope for myself to get in, but not at the possible expense of your happiness if it were to be at Brown.
Have a great time at Dartmouth/Amherst/Georgetown/Swarthmore/Middlebury.</p>
<p>I love on that livejournal catnamedzane's different links. </p>
<p>Oh and by the way this is going to be my 500th post. Yayish, I am upset today and stressing over how to plot my way into Brown's heart.</p>
<p>okay, so i got my final college letter today... what do you know? i was waitlisted... again. that means i am currently on 5 waitlists, and i would be thrilled to attend any of them, over my "safety" school. what's wrong with me?????</p>
<p>Bad breath?</p>
<p>Oh yes... A case of halitosis will cause 5 waitlists.
Adamo what is your first choice, or are you going to tell all the schools that they are your first choice? I am wondering about that strategy, but if I were to do that I would have a serious moral dilemma.</p>
<p>please, i was only waitlisted to brown, not accepted, you'll have to be careful with big words... i had to use a dictionary for halitosis. hehe.</p>
<p>brown is def my first choice. there is no way that i would tell them that they are all my first choice. i would not be able to sleep that way, honestly. but, i will tell them things that make them think i am very interested, and i am. i mean, the ONLY school that accepted me was a safety school, and with more and more thought i dont wanna attend that school. i know i was stupid for not applying more wisely, but its my fault and believe, i am suffering now!</p>
<p>what is your situation, lauren?</p>
<p>Actually, way too hard.
Why sugarcoat anything?
Ever think they just . . . didn't want you??
Look . . . you're a rower, right?
How good are you? Assuming you're simply amazing and qualify for whatever rowing team Y/Brown, here's a little piece of advice:
You can't make people like you. They do, or they don't. Part of playing sports in college is going to a college that wants YOU. Not the other way around. Look, Brown obviously doesn't want you (if you loved it that much you would have applied ED). Pick another school with a coach who WANTS you. You'll have a lot more fun and be happier.
Statistically, you have a better shot of rowing your way to Mars than getting off the Brown waitlist. Obviously I'm exaggerating but still...
and I recommend you pick up the book "Playing the Game: Insdie Athletic Recruiting in the Ivy League." It actually has a bunch of quotes from Mr. Goldberger and ex-lacrosse coach Mr. Lasagna (both Brown).
Brown doesn't want you, don't be so surprised. You're no different from any other Brown applicant.</p>
<p>that's a bit harsh, isnt it? but, lauren, if you want them bad enough, they should want you. ah, heck, i dunno what i'm talking. the school i wanted didnt want me. oh well. that was still harsh.</p>
<p>I know, I know, but if it makes you feel any better I got rejected from Brown too. I was ED def., RD den.
If you ask me, I would have been happier if they had just rejected me the first time, and I wouldn't have to go through basically being rejected twice from the same school . . . lol.
But, I just accepted the fact that Brown did not want me, and that I was not what the admissions officers at Brown were looking for (or I was unlucky, take your pick). Now I'm very happy with the school I have chosen to accept and look forward to a very happy and very unique college experience, despite having been rejected at my #1 top, unbeatable, BEST school ever, Brown. I'm not mad or bitter about Brown's decison to reject me. It happens. All the time. To a lot of people. Congrats to those of you who did get in (I bow my head) and waitlisters - good luck (but please, for the love of God, let's be honest?).
That is, excluding laurenemma (because she's so good that she doesn't need our good wishes to get off the waitlist).</p>
<p>and besides . . . I find that once you get rejected from your top choice (and assuming you get into one of your other high-ranking schools), you fall in LOVE with your next top choice anyway.</p>
<p>:)</p>
<p>You can't just think that they don't want you. They probably liked a lot of the applicants, but they had to choose a few over others. Think about it this way: Say you got into your top three schools, and you really, really liked all three. You eventually have to pick one, right? And you pick one college. But this doesn't mean that you didn't like the other colleges. In fact, you really liked them. It's just that you had to make a decision.</p>