<p>aznfoo...Contrary to what so many people think, you do not have to be hyper-brilliant with a gazillion ec's and 99% SSAT's to get into schools like Exeter. Sure, they have kids like that, but like someone else already noted, they turn away a good many like that as well. They do want real people. You do contribute to the diversity by coming from Texas, you do have good stats, and they must have liked you as a person. You will do well. Have confidence!</p>
<p>This is a very odd thread.</p>
<p>Perhaps I was one of the posters who came across as being mean. And I do sincerely apologize. </p>
<p>Also, I second the comments of Linda S. Many people here are still getting over a lot of disappointment.</p>
<p>But, you should be PROUD that you got accepted. Some qualities are not measured by test scores, or number of EC's. You probably have some great qualities that a school wants. Perhaps determination, or overcoming personal hardships and still doing well in life? We don't know you, so we can't know your good qualities. But remember, when a school accepts you, they have evaluated you and believe that you will do well at that school. So, I hope you will take time to consider the ups and downs of going away to school vs. your local option, and make the best decision that you and your family are comfortable with. Good luck!</p>
<p>Dude, you got accepted, that's EPIC!
But if you don't really WANT the spot let the school know so they can give it to some waitlist-kid who does.
Stop griping about how and chill bro.
B/S isin't for everyone, take a few days and chew on the thought that mabye it's not for you.
;)</p>
<p>We might want to remind ourselves that many on here are kids. Sounds like this kid was just thinking out loud on this board. Maybe we should be careful not to judge one another so quickly. We all have our moments now and then.</p>
<p>Hey D'yer where are you?</p>
<p>Dear im<em>a</em>azn_fool, what you are feeling is a phenomenon well-known to counseling services at elite colleges, but obviously not well known to some of the posters on this site. If you Google "imposter syndrome," you will find a description of very successful students who feel just as you do. FromIntroduction</a> of the Imposter Syndrome, a page from Caltech's website,
[quote]
Imposter syndrome can be defined as a collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist even in face of information that indicates that the opposite is true. It is experienced internally as chronic self-doubt, and feelings of intellectual fraudulence. It is basically feeling that you are not really a successful, competent, and smart student, that you are only imposing as such. Some common feelings and thoughts that might characterize the imposter syndrome are: “I feel like a fake” “My classmates/professors etc. are going to find out I don’t really belong here,” “Admissions made a mistake”
[/quote]
</p>
<p>You are not the only student who has these feelings. I guarantee you that other students reading your posts feel just as you do. The unsympathetic words of some of those posting on this thread will have done a dandy job of throttling those voices, but some of the strongest students accepted to boarding school this year will have these feelings.</p>
<p>Anyone who feels this way should feel free to speak with a counselor at boarding school, or later, at college. You may be surprised to learn how common a feeling this is. It does not mean that you are immature, ungrateful, or not ready for challenge. It does mean that you are, most likely, not overly confident about your abilities, although all evidence should convince you that you are a very strong student. </p>
<p>The admissions department did not make a mistake.</p>
<p>Im sorry if I hurt your feelings!
I didn't mean any harm.
Please forgive me.</p>
<p>Sometimes I wonder who the real "kids" are on here. What a shame. Kids work through things in different ways. This is a public forum. Who is to say who's views are more important or a waste of time. Be nice.</p>
<p>Obviously the post I responded to has been removed. I'm glad. It was unkind.</p>
<p>i'm sorry, but i really don't appreciate this thread. there are ALOT of kids on this board who are really upset to have been rejected from schools, so rather than defying what everyone says (example: "you probably had a great personality" ... "NO I DON'T"), you should just roll with it. if this is some sort of joke it's not funny because you probably made alot of kids feel worse about their rejections.</p>
<p>I'm guessing that they were going for the diversity thing as well. From what you wrote, you actually sound pretty...well...um, what do you call it. "eloquent." or something. but I guess eloquent isn't exactly the right thing since you're not talking, you're typing, buttttt yeah haha.</p>
<p>I'm making barely any sense.</p>
<p>One of my friends, who is a straight A student, was in varsity teams for both volleyball and basketball, plays the violin very well, is a wonderful person (i think she is :D), was in brainbowl, was on the math contest team, and so on, was rejected by Exeter. I thought that she would definitely get in, since...well, I mean, what's she lacking? But it might have had something to do with how like 5 or 6 people applied to boarding school this year and 5 of them, including me, applied to Exeter. I was the only one out of the five who got in.</p>
<p>I was really upset when I found out that she hadn't gotten in. I guess my hopes shouldn't have been too high from the beginning since they usually don't take 2 from a small school, especially a school as small as mine (about 50 people per grade, a private school) but I thought that she would be perfectly fine. Ugh.</p>
<p>So don't worry, I<em>am</em>FPP or something (sorry I can't remember your name and I just don't feel like scrolling up the page and finding out) they chose you for a reason. You might not be the star pupil or the one who everyone is completely jealous of, but just be glad that you got in! :D I agree that a lot of the comments on here are a bit harsh, but just...well, don't worry. :) You'll probably do fine.</p>
<p>What grade are you going to be going to Exeter (or not going to Exeter, whichever you end up choosing) in? I'm going in as a prep (a ninth grader).</p>
<p>Feel free to PM or something if you want to!!!!!</p>
<p>:D</p>
<p>"Don't Worry, Be Happy~" ♪</p>
<p>sorry for being kind of mean the first time.
but when you post things like this, you
have to rememeber who you're talking to.
we have applied to some of the most
competitive schools in the country,
and many of us have gotten waitlisted
and rejected. its hard to have pity
for someone who says that they're not
worthy, no matter the self image problem.
its hard when someone says
that they're not special, so why
did they get in to this certain school.
because everyone else feels like they
had a shot, and they might have
had more extracurriculars or better
SSAT's or something. so i'm sorry
that a lot of other people and i
were jerks to you, but just remember
who you're voicing your insecurities
to next time.</p>
<p>I kind of took it the other way. The OP was just showing how unpredictable boarding school admissions are (not to be mean to the OP). I am sure the he had qualities that earned him admission.</p>
<p>No offense to anyone :)</p>
<p>also true crosscountry.
i probably should've
included that part.
and he made a good
point about admissions
being unpredictable.
BUT. the way he
worded it made
him difficult to pity.</p>
<p>! preppp
i agree with you. the minute i read the thread title..very difficult to pity</p>
<p>um. bump. :)
I think this person needs some positive feedback from some people.
you obviously got accepted for a reason, and I think that he/she needs some cheering up after having been attacked so badly.</p>
<p>No offense meant to anyone who got rejected/waitlisted, though. I just think that FOO needs some comments to cheer him/her up a bit. :D</p>
<p>good luck!</p>
<p>I don't think anyone should be apologizing here. The creator of this post was also being insensitive when complaining about being accepted into a top school. If you are feeling insecure, say something like "I am really nervous" or "How should I approach this", it is fine to feel worried at a time like this. Instead, you posted "WHY ME???!!" making you sound ungrateful and scornful of the school. There are students here who would love to be in your position and you could hurt their feelings.</p>
<p>Also, you "insecurity issues" didn't seem to show when you implied that you were better than those who chose to comment on this board:</p>
<p>"You poor. pathetic critics love to jump on others who show a weakness towards things or people who obviously are better off than you"</p>
<p>I am not saying that this was your intent but this thread certainly seemed like one created to fish for compliments or get attention.</p>
<p>Think before you post, young grasshopper.
:)</p>
<p>I was expecting you to say something along the lines of "I havnt gotten in anywhere!"</p>
<p>Exeter is a fab school! Who cares why they picked you?! They picked YOU!</p>
<p>P.S. hey cookie. itss prongs =]</p>
<p>heyyyyyyy!!</p>
<p>Look cookie. I'm seriously not fishing for compliments. Advice? Obviously. Reassurance? That'd very much appreciated. OMG YOUR A GENIUS LET ME KISS YOUR BUTT IN PRAISE? No. I'm not looking for that.
When I said that, I meant that I'm the person who has a weakness which people like to attack me on that. The person who's better off than everyone is not me. I meant Vaizard, as I clearly said. Vaizard was a person who had awesome status and people jumped him for that.
And just one. last. time. I'M NOT A GUY. I'M A GIRL. GREAT.</p>