Homophobic Roommates

<p>Move out, their beyond reason</p>

<p>Honestly, it’s just going to be really uncomfortable for you to just stay there in that situation. Of course, moving out would be one of the more clean and simple solutions to the problem. And there is the choice of standing up against your roommates. If you don’t want to change rooms, maybe they can. It’s not your fault that they aren’t able to appreciate you for who you are.</p>

<p>“Honestly, it’s just going to be really uncomfortable for you to just stay there in that situation. Of course, moving out would be one of the more clean and simple solutions to the problem. And there is the choice of standing up against your roommates. If you don’t want to change rooms, maybe they can. It’s not your fault that they aren’t able to appreciate you for who you are.”</p>

<p>Whatever you do , don’t stand up to them, this will create a conflict which can get REALLY nasty, really fast . </p>

<p>Just go to an RA and say you seriously need new roomates</p>

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<p>First, the roommates don’t even know the OP sexual preference is homosexual.</p>

<p>Second, there is no way of knowing how they would react. Just because many people think homosexual relations are inherently wrong (me included), doesn’t mean people will attack, be violent or engage in bullying. </p>

<p>One of the roommates even told the most he would do is “stop talking with”. </p>

<p>It is possible to have a cordial, if distant and indifferent, relationship with flatmates/roommates that have certain behaviors that annoy you on moral grounds, but don’t affect you personally (which would be the case of smoking or loud music).</p>

<p>The roommates do know that OP is gay.</p>

<p>But why do people assume that people who find homosexuality inherently wrong is somehow violent or bullies?</p>

<p>^ Because there is a HUGE difference between thinking it’s wrong and saying numerous nasty things about gay people. That is a bully. That is wrong. That makes the OP afraid. </p>

<p>My father thinks there’s something inherently unnatural about homosexuality, but with a bi daughter and a bi nearly-son (my best friend), he has never said a mean thing about gay people. He also supports marriage equality. There is a HUGE difference.</p>

<p>Hey I’m not in college yet and I live in northern california and have all my life.I’m somewhat religious but I’m kind of conflicted with befriending bi/gay girls.(I don’t mind the guys maybe because I’m a girl).</p>

<p>~I think they need to figure out gays aren’t attracted to every person of their gender so they don’t have to worry about being liked in that way 24/7.</p>

<p>I have kind of an issue where one of my new friends said she’s not sure if she’s bi and I was like OK…caz a week ago she said ‘goodbye beautiful’ and I didn’t think much of it since my mom compliments everyone men&women and when she says that its not like in a way to hit on them.But she’s old school and people my age don’t really talk like that esp if you say girlfriend as in a friend that’s a girl not relationship wise.Like my mom uses that term all the time but people my age always think of it in the other way so I try not to use it so people aren’t confused.
Anyways I know this is mean to say but I don’t think I could be friends with a lezbo or maybe even bi.I won’t try to change them or be rude whatever I just avoid interaction.</p>

<p>Backgrounds/culture plays a major role so you have to respect it and accept it.Also they might not be from socal so it could be outside of their comfort level esp if its a small town/suburb where they haven’t been exposed to other cultures/diverse people.</p>

<p>So what happened now that the room mates know?</p>

<p>Wow, Fore, you’d ditch a friend because they came out? And people wonder why the suicide rates for lgbt youths are outrageously high…</p>

<p>Oh yes, Fore, nothing as threatening as having a woman be interested in you. Just like how, as a lesbian woman, I refuse to ever associate with heterosexual men.</p>

<p>There are plenty of people out there that don’t care so I wouldn’t say th majority think/act like me.A lot of my friends are more open to it.</p>

<p>So since other people are not discriminatory or bigoted towards gay people, they can do the work for you. It’s okay since you’re in the “minority.” </p>

<p>People’s lives get really, really screwed up because of people like you. Some people end up killing themselves because others aren’t “comfortable” being around them. Does that seem okay to you?</p>

<p>It’s not okay. Hating or discriminating against another human being (which stems from hate, ya know, that’s how it works) for any part of their identity is not okay. And if you think it is, I sincerely feel sad for you, and I also wonder how it must feel to live in such a closed mindset. There are so many awesome people in the world that you’re going to miss out on. Just because you think gay people are icky. Really? Grow the eff up.</p>

<p>ForeIN, I understand that seeing something after little to no previous exposure can seem uncomfortable at first, but that’s not an excuse. You can’t just write off a gay person because you’ve not interacted much with a gay person before. That’s basically homophobic, even if you don’t intend to be rude or discriminatory.</p>

<p>One of my daughter’s best friends is gay. They are both 15 and have known each other since they were 3. The fact that one of them is gay and one is straight is a very small part of their friendship. It doesn’t threaten my daughter. What’s her friend going to do, attack her? lol</p>

<p>I honestly don’t think people should feel bad because others don’t feel comfortable because of who/what they are.
There’s always going to be people that hate you and people that love you.Not everyone is going to like you and you have to realize its like that for everyone and accept and move on.It makes life much easier.
Being a minority as in a women/ethnicity isn’t the same as sexual orientation since its not obvious unless you verbal say something about it.</p>

<p>Fore, it’s one thing to not be liked because you’re a bad person. It’s another if you’re being disliked for something that you can’t change. </p>

<p>And no, ethnicity is NOT always apparent. Let’s use your logic: </p>

<p>I am a Hispanic/white female. Say I have a great friend who is a closet racist. He finds out that I am Hispanic even though I don’t look it (because I don’t- I also don’t “look” bi). He no longer is friends with me because I am Hispanic, even though not a single thing has changed about me. That’s OK with you?</p>

<p>If so, I guess I have really nothing else to say. I’m sorry that you’ve limited your friend base simply because of superficial factors- especially when NOTHING about the person has changed. Your friend has ALWAYS been gay or whatnot. She simply chose to come out.</p>

<p>Well sorry to hear that.But I can understand/relate with the race thing but not sexuality.But its harder to tell if someone is bi because people think gay or straight not bi at once.</p>

<p>What? I’m sorry, but I don’t follow. You can’t look gay or straight or bi. Just as I don’t “look” Hispanic.</p>

<p>Well ya its like saying I can’t tell what someone’s favorite ice cream flavor is just by looking at them.</p>