<p>Thanks Periwinkle! I am going to give it a try:)</p>
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<p>woohoo…it worked!</p>
<p>This is pretty pointless, but on this Saturday (March 9th), there’s a movie on Lifetime called Restless Virgins. It airs at 8 PM ET/PT. It’s based on a true story at a boarding school about a sex scandal that happened at Milton Academy.Two alumni of Milton Academy wrote about a book about it, so they turned it into a movie. It seems interesting, so I might watch it.
It’s weird how it airs on March 9th and that’s decision day for most schools.</p>
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I’ll probably watch it just to relieve stress!</p>
<p>I think many kids consider it “grown up” until it’s over, then the reality sets in. Which is similar to the reaction of adults who “hook-up.” Nothing less satisfying than empty calories. </p>
<p>We raised our kids with a certain set of values and a high sense of self-esteem. So far it manages to be sticking. Doesn’t mean they aren’t curious, but they also have a good sense of the long term issues involved and are opting for emotional bonding before physical.</p>
<p>Knocking on wood (a million times). :)</p>
<p>Hormones are hormones. Boarding schools, day schools–public and private-- even single gender schools–where there are teenagers there will be things happening-- not with every kid to be sure–but with a lot of them–regardless.</p>
<p>I always tell girls that “teenage boys’ lie.” They can’t help it most of the time–and so take what they say with a salt shaker full of caution. Remember that one of the two of you has to have your wits about, and biology suggest that it is unlikely to he him–so it better be you.</p>
<p>But whatever one does, don’t do something that will have long term bad effects. </p>
<p>All we can do is hope that those things that they have been taught have been internalized and will emerge when the situation call for them. After that, it is up to them.</p>
<p>Remember we were all teenagers too-and some of the mistakes I made then–wow–</p>
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<p>Excellent advise! And it made me smile.</p>
<p>Seriously? In 2013 we’re going to repeat that old saw that boys can’t help themselves and girls are the ones that have to have their wits about them?</p>
<p>+1 Momof7thgrader. :-)</p>
<p>For a parent, having a boy means you only have to worry about one boy.</p>
<p>Having a girl means you have to worry about a billion boys… ;)</p>
<p>As a parent with children of both gender, I agree with momof7thgrader. Many of the comments on this thread are based on old gender stereotypes that belittle both sexes. With a dozen nieces and nephews and dozens of my children’s friends, I haven’t seen much difference in sexual drive between male or female teenagers, nor any difference in wanting to be in committed relationships or not based on gender. If anything, I have found the girls more fickle about relationships at this age. </p>
<p>GMTplus7, with my daughter I do worry about unwanted pregnancy. However, if that did happen, she at least would have the choice of either continuing the pregnancy or not. Should my son get a girl pregnant, however, he would not have the choice on whether to become a father or not. In many ways, the female has more control over the situation.</p>
<p>Okay, bad joke…</p>
<p>I got the joke, GMTplus7. Given my hubby is of the same mind about the “billion boys.”</p>
<p>Although I would note that I’ve seen girls be aggressors as of late. My friends with boys complain of the constant calls from girls.</p>
<p>So it seems we are reaching parity with this aspect of “teen” life (sigh). :)</p>
<p>My sister wrote an article about this subject a couple months age in The Atlantic, if you are interested.
[A</a> Plan to Reboot Dating - Emily Esfahani Smith - The Atlantic](<a href=“A Plan to Reboot Dating - The Atlantic”>A Plan to Reboot Dating - The Atlantic)</p>
<p>And another in The New Criterion a month or so ago:
[Hook-up</a> feminism by Emily Esfahani Smith - The New Criterion](<a href=“http://www.newcriterion.com/articles.cfm/Hook-up-feminism-7487]Hook-up”>Hook-up feminism | The New Criterion)</p>
<p>And another in the Atlantic:
[Let’s</a> Give Chivalry Another Chance - Emily Esfahani Smith - The Atlantic](<a href=“Let's Give Chivalry Another Chance - The Atlantic”>Let's Give Chivalry Another Chance - The Atlantic)</p>
<p>You might find them interesting, many others did.</p>
<p>@FountainsirenB: your sister’s articles were both insightful and thought-provoking. The last article, in particular, generated a ton of emotional responses.</p>
<p>Thanks for sharing!</p>