<p>thx everyone.. all those comments really REALLY helped......... gosh. thx so much!</p>
<p>....due to the lack of immature comments on this thread, i feel it my duty to lighten up the mood</p>
<p>girls are poo poo heads :p</p>
<p>it seems as if i am also the last person on collegeconfidential at this hour...hehe, i love being a west coaster, we get extra time :D</p>
<p>nope...I think I'm the last person!</p>
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...from someone who was running personal adverts on this board a month back :p j/k</p>
<p>Go out with her best friend.</p>
<p>Seriously.</p>
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I have two sons and I have seen this happen to both of them several times. These girls are all over them, calling them, flirting with them, begging them to notice. Then the boy asks them out and they say, "No". I dont' understand girls and I was one once.
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cookiemom: look at the bright side--your sons got lucky. They were spared from having dates with girls who would do that sort of thing.</p>
<p>PW--same to you. If the girl in question "led you on," then she wasn't worth your time anyway. Dating her best friend sounds like a decent plan, but I'd go to Princeton and see what happens (why is cookiemom always right?).</p>
<p>Schwaby,</p>
<p>LMAO. i like it. but yeah.. gosh cookiemom, how come your sons and i are so similar.. but they go to princeton.. and im still a wannabe.</p>
<p><em>cue: "Awwwwwww"</em>
:)
Me too, PW, me too....</p>
<p>so anyway, i emailed her and apologize for doing such a weird thing at such a bad time and she just emailed me back saying i just kinda caught her by suprise... i took your advice and emailed her again, just to clarify things up... this is what i wrote</p>
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<p>yes i know! but i dont want to study. its too annoying. not really something i want to do and spend my time on... but im trying to concentrate...</p>
<p>i knew you were kind of surprised... but i didnt do it out of whim.... i dont think anyone knew that i liked you. only ______ and ______ (he was talking about _________, so he got lucky =p)... you probably don't know, BUT i've really liked you since last year.... but yeah, i think i'll be okay... but you know something special? you are the first girl i asked out =). b4 it was the other way around... i know it was a really stupid thing to do.. esp right after you told me about that guy and your ex, but the night b4, i was too easily influence by "some people". but that's okay. i hope you wont feel weird about it. the same kind of thing happned to me before too... it was awkward but i learned... im really glad i knew someone like you! most girls thesedays are soo =(.... gosh im so sorry for doing this... it's soooooo unlike me, im never like this.... ppl will be so appalled.. but that's okay... i just hope you work things out with your ex...</p>
<p>anyhow. good luck on your bio test, you probably wont need it. but study hard this year! next year you can relax when all the other kids are working their ass off!!! b.c they only look at 12 + AP courses.. so u can use chem bio 12 and ap.. get them out of the way so all u have to worry about is eng next year..</p>
<p>good luck!!!</p>
<p>hope everything goes well!</p>
<p>talk to you soon!</p>
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<p>i hope writing that will cause her to reply so i can maybe find out why she said that. i really want to know. tell me what u guys think.. i didnt really find a chance to talk to her at school, we only have 1 class together.. and i dont see her often.. so i think we can email for a while or use MSN or phone...</p>
<p>PW...I feel your pain, except from the female perspective. similar situation, except even messier and even MORE like a soap-opera. involving me, a guy I've liked for a looong time, and two of my best friends. one of whom hated me after they broke up and the other of whom he still likes, even though he also sort of likes me. (if telling you all the horrible drama would make you feel better by comparison, I will, but otherwise I'll keep it short).</p>
<p>so anyway, my advice (born from the way I wish I'd been able to handle my situation) is to be direct with her. you need to get it all straightened out, because otherwise you won't be able to stop thinking about it. so if she doesn't respond to your email with an explanation, no matter how awkward it feels, just ask her for one...speaking as a girl who's been there, my guess is that she'll understand why you need to know and be honest with you, because at the very least she cares about you as a friend, right?</p>
<p>the other piece of advice is to be really, really, REALLY cautious about going out with her if she still has feelings for someone else. I've been hurt pretty badly by that, and so have other people I know. it REALLY doesn't turn out well. AT ALL.</p>
<p>so anyway, I'm very sorry about what you're going through, and I hope it gets better...good luck!</p>
<p>Wow, I like the Princeton board, what a compassionate group of people! :)</p>
<p>Take it from me, Princetonwannabe, girls can sometimes be strangely attached to an ex even though they know it's time to move on. I've turned down perfectly nice guys because I needed some time to get over a previous heartache. Some people just take longer to move on than others. If she still has her ex in her life, it's probably complicating her feelings even more. My advice is to remain the supportive friend until she's ready to move on. Don't restrict yourself to her, although, and keep your eyes open for other girls, too. Trust me, girls ALWAYS love a challenge.</p>
<p>Hope this helps to clear your mind for your tests. If things don't work out, don't fret -- I've heard that Princetonian girls are beautiful! Good luck!</p>
<p>Dont Apologize Dammit! Its Not You Fault! Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!</p>
<p>We need Byerly here for some expert advice.</p>
<p>i hope you're kidding.
he'd just say something of this effect.</p>
<p>"actually, haravrd is known for better looking chicks. Have you looked at
<strong><em>place OBSCURE Ranking Guide Here</em></strong>__? It clearly shows that Harvard is superior in all aspects." </p>
<p>As for harvard chicks, i'd hit it. with a stick, that is. PWNED.</p>
<p>lol, hey....lets cut byerly some slack. He always has great, really detailed info. So what if he's a little biased towards his alma matter, who isnt? Although I may not be the biggest Harvard fan (still sore over the EA deferral) I like his pride and ability to look past all the negativity thrown his way. You go Byerly! :)</p>
<p>yeah i should have said sorry.. but gosh.. i dont know what to say to her..</p>
<p>ptonwannabe--
i had a similar situation w/ a girl freshman year...and she hasnt talked or made eye contact with me in three years. i'm not going to reproduce the whole incident here b/c, judging by the only time ive told the whole story, it takes just under three hours. it was tough, getting rejected and all, and EVERYONE at school still remembers and my good friends still like to bug me about it on occasions. but i made it through and met another girl who was just as radiant and who actually liked me too. the waiting time--approx. two years--was really worth it. God--or whatever savior complex you have--has placed this seemingly difficult situation in your way for good reasons unbeknown to you. there, no doubt, is something better in store for you...its just a matter of searching to discover what it is.</p>
<p>an apology, while not due in my opinion, may serve to calm her of whatever anxiety she may have. but it takes real courage to approach a person after something like that.</p>
<p>wow, high school romance can be so awkward sometimes.... </p>
<p>just act chill(but not arrogant) and see what happens
give her some time, she may just be taking too many offers right now</p>
<p>PW -- I know you have probably had more comments on this than you need (I don't want to beat a dead horse) but I am going through getting over an ex at the moment and I just felt so compelled to say something! My boyfriend and I were soooo incredibly "in love" if that's what you want to call it. We spent every free block, lunch, weekend, and like two nights during the week (since he and I live about an hours drive away from eachother) together for about three straight months. I even went away with he and his parents for xmas break. We came back home and had a good time New Year's Eve and Day. When we went back to school the following Monday (the 3rd), he told me that we were getting too attached and that we shouldn't be together anymore. He broke up with me the next day. For me, this came completely out of the blue, totally unexpected. My head is still spinning. Its tough seeing him at school every day, since I only have about 60 kids in my senior class. I'm still asking myself why it had to happen this way.</p>
<p>Heartache is part of life... We all have to deal with it in whatever way works best. This has never happened to me before -- I usually do the breaking up. I think that's part of why it hurt so much. And, in the past, I would move along and get a new boyfriend pretty much right away, I've really never had to "get over" anything until now. I seriously haven't been without a boyfriend since November of 2001. But, I'm dealing with it. I'm trying to focus on my school work, my student council obligations, yada yada yada. Life hurts. There's no getting around that, and its okay to allow yourself to feel hurt - you just shouldn't let it bog you down. (LOL I should listen to my own advice, I didn't go to school the day after he broke up with me and lost 6 pounds in less than two weeks from not eating ;)) </p>
<p>But if you never put yourself out there because you're afraid of getting hurt, you won't be able to gain a whole lot of anything either. (I know someone somewhere has said that more eloquently than I just did.) Just ride it out, it sounds like you're already doing better! </p>
<p>I do believe Valdez is right, something better will pop into your life when it's supposed to, you may not even have to search for it.</p>