<p>So heres the story. I got an awesome room as my dorm. Its close to the pool, dining commons, quiet, big, semi private bathroom, on the 1st floor and everything. But heres the problem, the whole house is made up of transfers and upper classmen while I am the only freshman in the house. </p>
<p>The problem with this is that everyone is 20 years old and up, already has friends, and doesnt really want to bother with making new ones. I can understand this, but I'm having a hell of a time finding freshman friends. No one really talks in classes, and ive noticed that most friendships are formed in the common room of the dorms. </p>
<p>I honestly think its a problem if the only person you know other than your roommate is the RA of the house. What should I do in this situation? Wait it out?, Get my room changed despite how convenient my room is?, Wait for clubs to come out?</p>
<p>Wait for clubs to start up and join whatever peaks your interest. I guess some people do make good friends through their dorm but most lasting friendships are built on common interests. If you like to swim, join the swim team. If you’re interested in psychology, join the psychology club. I’ve had the most success with clubs as far as making friends go.</p>
<p>I agree with withlovemegan. Find clubs & activities you enjoy and you will have something in common with the other members by default. My D likes & gets along with her suite mates, but the best friends she’s made so far in college were people she met through clubs.</p>
<p>Don’t forget classmates as a potential source of friends. Impromptu study sessions, more formal study groups, or even just a coffee after class if someone seems friendly. Everyone else is meeting new people, too, and their dorm-mates may not be their first choice for socializing.</p>
<p>Arrive a little early for your classes and strike up conversations. Or stay late and do the same. Invite people to a study group at your dorm and then for a swim in the pool. </p>
<p>I suspect you’re going to find that your room becomes very popular among your friends!</p>
<p>Now that I think about it waiting it out until clubs start going is a good choice to do. Though quiet and dead, my dorm house has as many if not more advantages than disadvantages. </p>
<p>I think another problem in having is that my classes arent really challenging yet, I’m taking Calculus 3B, Chem 2A(honors entry chem), and Physics 6A and find myself with way too much free time since I got a 5 on AB Calc, Chemistry, and Physics and find these classes relatively easy. Having free time and nothing to do kinda bummed me out a bit.</p>
<p>ranka–you may yet find friends among the upperclassmen. </p>
<p>One year our lovely upperclass triple had a freshman girl in—she got put in when someone else dropped out of housing over the summer. Even though there were 2 years between us, we became fast friends and still are to this day (36 years later!) Of course, she made many friends elsewhere, especially in her major.</p>
<p>I lived in a residential college for all four years, which obviously means as a freshman I was with upperclassmen. I actually loved it - I made freshmen (and upperclassmen) friends through clubs very early on, but my residential college was also very close (everyone wanted to get to know everyone else). Also a good way to make friends in class is to ask if anyone is going to lunch, then go chat with them, etc. That is how I made one of my best friends in college. Anyways like others said, clubs really help, and upperclassmen can be your friends too!!!</p>
<p>I was always friends with upperclassmen, it’s not weird. Age isn’t a big factor in making friends. The only downer is that they graduate before you.</p>
<p>Actually, I can see graduation as an advantage if one is networking. When one of them gets their foot in the door, that is an opportunity to do likewise.</p>
<p>You are lucky that your dorm room has a pool in it. That’s cool. I would stay there just cause of that. If you are younger you have to prove to the older guys that you are cool. If you get a girlfreind then they will show more respect. And if they don’t like you cause your not as old as they are then they are probably just not very nice. And you have a cool RA. I heard they were usually mean so that cool.</p>
<p>Aye, unless you’re naturally a complete introvert or you’re anti-social, you’ll start to go a little nutty without friends. Life would probably be easier that way (not needing friends/interaction) but we just aren’t wired to be solitary.</p>
<p>The OP did not write anything about a pool IN the dorm. And I don’t think that the best way to make friends among upperclassmen is to do what you think they think is cool. You want to make friends, after all; so you should be whoever you are. But I’m sure Ranka knows all this. And maybe kollegekid’s post was just a joke…</p>
<p>Sure, friends are good to have, but I’ve personally never found them a necessity for happiness (that of course doesn’t mean I refuse friends; I try to be in good terms with everyone).</p>
<p>@kollegekid
Lol you gotta be joking. How can I get a girlfriend If theres no girls or people I know? And how can I be “cool” if im in doing homework on a saturday or friday night, just because I have nothing else to do?
And also pretty much all RA’s ive met here have been pretty cool. </p>
<p>@registerer
I’d do that if I was actually being challenged here. I’m freaking bored with my classes right now, and I am only taking them because I have to in order to move on to higher levels.</p>