<p>i know she likes me. she used to freeze up and star straight at me until i left the room at the start of the year</p>
<p>I second everything daretorun has said, actually. Furthermore, she already has a boyfriend. Forget about it, and get on with your life. Either that, or grow a pair and ask her straight out. “I know you have a boyfriend already, but I really like you. If you by any chance end up single sometime soon, would you like to go out with me?” (Except, you know, with more charm.) The worst that can happen is she rejects you, but at least you’ll have an answer then.</p>
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<p>I hope you know that clear communication is a big part to forming a stable, long-lasting relationship.</p>
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what are u even talking about. shes not going to straight up say she likes me</p>
<p>i dint want to read the great wall of china of text but all i gotta say is, if you like a girl for over 3-6 months and your still not going out with her then you realllly need to move on…</p>
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<p>Well, someone has to give. If she’s not going to say it, then it’s up to you. So, for the love of Christ, just ask her out.</p>
<p>AMEN! Lol Dude just ask her out, it’s that simple!</p>
<p>I know this is very cliche but it really is true its a big world…dont have yours sights set on one girl yet… Have fun for a while ignore her go party it up be with other girls get distracted if its meant to be well then something will happen but don’t plan it being meant to be you will find someone better</p>
<p>If she Skypes with her boyfriend and posts a lot of pictures on Facebook, she would have sent you/shown you nudes by now if she really liked you. That’s just how girls who do that type of stuff roll.</p>
<p>alright i actually read almost the whole thing because im bored, but anways, dude im just gonna spit out what i think.
First of all if a girl knows somebody for several months and shes nervous/shy around you it means one of two things…</p>
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<li>Either your smokin hot and she is totally intimidated by you</li>
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<li>Your just totally creeping her out</li>
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<p>And judging on the fact that your in college, never had a girlfriend, and totally obsessed by this one girl, my guess would be the latter half. =/ just my 2 cents. Save yourself the heartache, move on and find other girls. Your in college man there are plenty of fish out there.</p>
<p>This thread is hilarious. One guy missed his chance and is now in semi-denial, but even if that wasn’t the case and the feelings were mutual, a plethora of roadblocks have now emerged for the potentiality of the relationship.</p>
<p>In your first post you mentioned another guy who also seems to be good friends with her. If she treats the both of you about the same, what’s stopping her from [supposedly] liking him too?</p>
<p>So if, hypothetically, you accidently smoked too much weed and had an epiphany, somehow gaining the courage to grow a pair and initiate a “date” and eventually confessing to her, do you think that will solve your problems?</p>
<p>If she accepts, then good for you. She is a fickle girl who would dump her boyfriend for someone she talks to rather infrequently. Or she maybe was playing hard to get from the start, but based on how you described her personality, her outgoing demeanor belies any disingenuity. This still doesn’t solve your problem of your wasting time and lack of passion. You are putting your future aside for something insignificant as a short-term relationship.</p>
<p>She rejects you. I think this would be for the better, as it would be a clear bltch slap in the face telling you to get on with your life. Whether you ask her tomorrow or in a month, if the end result is the same, why waste that time? Your infatuation has warped your perception: you may not realize this, but from an objective view, I can more than guarantee that you overthink the smallest of details and interpret it into some kind of signal that she’s into you. Everybody thinks like this when in love. It’s nothing special.</p>
<p>And what if she is into you? How long are you expecting this relationship to last? Will her spontaneous breakup with her boyfriend and hooking up with you solve your lack of passion and summer problems? Maybe your lack of passion will be solved, since now you have a source of happiness, but you are still treading on thin ice.</p>
<p>Bottom line: don’t let something petty as infatuation screw up your college life. You’re going to regret this in the future, when you self-reflect on your past. Get over it.</p>
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<p>I apologize if I was a bit harsh on my criticism. This is just my advice, and whether you take it or not, is completely up to you. This is your life. Make your own decisions.</p>
<p>She could have stared at you in the beginning of the year because you look funny and she could get nervous around you because you suck at holding a conversation. You’re much better off actually becoming friends with her first.</p>
<p>Or any girl for that matter. Go meet some other girls, they’ll take your mind off of her.</p>
<p>I just want to be her friend. If I could just see her more often and talk to her it would be better.
That other guy lives on her same floor and their floor is like a close knit pack. You cant really get into it unless you know them all really well and I cant say I have the confidence or any reason to just go up there and put myself in.</p>
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<p>Ask her to go to the strip club with you. Girls can’t resist that ****. Hookers and blow are a great way to seal the deal.</p>
<p>Confidence is your problem. You sound like a sad puppy dog.</p>
<p>daretorun may be spot on, sorry to say. Many years ago I chatted up w/a nerdy guy in the laundry room of my dorm. Hey, what are you going to do when you’re waiting for the dryer to finish? Next thing I knew he was stopping by my dorm room constantly. Dropping hints didn’t do the trick (and yes, I did have a bf), I had to literally scream at him to stop bothering me (he wanted to read my Tarot cards?!) That took care of the unwelcome visits. Sorry buddy, take it from a female, and a Mom. Move on. She’s just not that into you.</p>
<p>PS I’m guessing her body language is speaking volumes if only you would sit up and take notice.</p>
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<p>No offense, but do you have asperger’s or something? Everything you’ve described is pretty standard for how acquaintances would treat each other. She has your number–if she wanted to date you she’d at the least start a text convo every once in awhile. Best case scenario she thinks you’re cool/interesting but doesnt know you well enough to have any feelings. If this is the case, you need a chance to interact with her outside of class and flirt with her. Signs that she likes you without her blatantly coming out and saying “I like you” would include:</p>
<p>when you’re hanging out, she picks up the conversation when it lulls, smiles a lot, laughs at your jokes even when they aren’t funny, touches you on the arm/shoulder/whatever, doesnt look at her phone, says we should hang out more often, smiles when you tease her or hit on her, is comfortable hugging you in more than an awkward acquaintance hug sort of way, is comfortable holding your hand, etc. She could do all that and still just wanna be your friend, but it would at least let know know she’s comfortable around you.</p>
<p>You said you dont even sit by her in class. Hopefully you realize that’s a sign she doesn’t have some massive crush on you. In fact, she probably can tell you like her and are too shy to sit by her. You should have just gone over and sat by her, or even better, stayed put and said “Hey ____, come sit by me”</p>
<p>well once we were in class last semester and she stared at me for like 10 seconds and i pretended not to notice then i looked at her and she looked away and her hand started shaking really bad for like 10 more seconds.</p>
<p>■■■■■■ everywhere!</p>
<p>"well once we were in class last semester and she stared at me for like 10 seconds and i pretended not to notice then i looked at her and she looked away and her hand started shaking really bad for like 10 more seconds. "</p>
<p>Wow, this is epic fail on top of epic fail. So you realize that a girl stares at you and her hand shakes? So what! That could mean 100 billion different things. And if you ask me, if a girl has to shake after she looks at you that probably is not a good sign. Like shes is terrified by you or something.</p>