<p>The point is to get her number so you can talk and hopefully meet up. Obviously sometime throughout this process this guy needs his friend to formally introduce them but if you don't have that opportunity, you have to make it happen yourself. It's not just going to magically happen if you wish hard enough, life's too short to just let things go by. </p>
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^Please, keep in mind that this is a guy on CC talking. I doubt he's getting any...
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<p>You're right. I am a guy talking on CC, so if you go by probability I am more than likely not getting any because most guys on here don't. I'm not going to sit here and make you all believe I've had sex for your convenience, you take my advice for what it's worth.</p>
<p>I'd just like to add that I've gone through this scenario before, except it was myspace and I had no friend to make introductions. It helped that this girl had seen me around school before (and in turn I had seen her a few times, so I recognized her immediately on myspace and added her). We talked, saw each other at school and talked, and eventually got her number on myspace because we only saw each other rarely by chance at school.</p>
<p>first of all thank you guys for the advice =)
ok so i waited a good three weeks before doing anything on facebook( which is the only way i can contact her so far lol) and so yesterday just so she remembers me, I commented on one of her photos. U see she went to Macedonia over the summer and she put the pics on facebook, and my parents just bought a house in Macedonia. When we chatted i told her ive never been there so i commented saying that "I guess I'll be visiting soon, since my parents bought a house there blah blah blah.....
it only took her a minute to respond with" ahhhh im so happy for u (she did use my name) i hope you enjoy it...and she ended with a smiley face.
now this is what i wanted, it wasnt anything creepy, and she thought about me at least for that minute.
sooo what should be my next move..... ??????? i dont know how to get her number without being creepy lol again thanks for all the help!!!!!</p>
<p>Dear god, just please don't use facebook, it is very, very bad for getting girls. Just grow a pair, and ask your roommate to introduce you two. Then before you leave (after physically meeting her), ask her for her number so that you two can hang out or get coffee or something. Please stop using facebook to talk to this girl, and commenting on her photos makes you seem like a pussy. Just be a man, and meet this girl. Whoever tells you otherwise doesn't know what the hell he/she is talking about. Facebook is no way to start any sort of relationship with a human being. It just bothers me how socially retarded our generation is. People can't talk to each other, they have to text, IM, use facebook, myspace, etc.</p>
<p>^^^
I completely agree with you. As of right now facebook is all i have. your completely right, im afraid....afraid of REJECTION. many people are, I will meet her probably early next semester (physically). thank you for being honest, I cant keep relying on facebook</p>
<p>Don't be afraid of rejection. A harsh rejection is gold. It is something you can laugh with your friends about for a long long time. If a girl rejects you and says something like, "Sorry, I don't date guys that look like Richard Simmons" or of that nature, you can joke about that forever, and then use that as material when atracting other women.</p>
<p>You definitely don't talk about being rejected by other women when trying to attract women, unless your attempt that ended in rejection was done as a joke...</p>
<p>But I do agree that you should get over rejection; once you've experienced it a few times it gradually becomes something you just brush off your shoulder. </p>
<p>You simply shouldn't talk about being rejected by other women though when attempting to attract women because it will give the women you are talking to doubts. If the other women rejected you, they might begin searching for the reason why.</p>
<p>hahaha thanks jagerdeer, but she is Muslim, and so am I, which means we dont drink but thanks anyway. yea i agree with laughing about rejection, but this might sound stupid but rejection is not something I'm used to. I work hard at everything and i never get rejected. I make sure everything is done with 100% effort. I am looking at this the same way....i know i sound like a big D-bag or A-hole but im really not. Anyway I'm just gonna become good friends with her because i can get along with anybody. I have never met a person that doesnt like my personality and I've never had an enemy. I know i can easily become friends with her especially since were like the only two macedonians at our college lol. so after i become good friends with her I'm gonna work my way to better things. again thanks for the advice and i will keep you guys updated.</p>
<p>Follow my advice:
1) Comment on every picture of her showing cleavage, wearing a bikini, and or partaking in any enticing poses.
2) Change your facebook picture to a shirtless one of yourself. Make sure you look good. If not, use photoshop.
3) TyP3 LiK3 tH!s
4) Call her ho and/or *****.
5) Say 'nigga' every other sentence.</p>
<p>Seriously, if you listen to me this girl will be all over you.</p>
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<p>Two words that are gonna change your life buddy: friend zone. She doesn't want another pal, she wants a man...</p>
<p>It takes a special type of girl to go from being buddy buddy to intimacy with a guy they have grown to see more of as a brother figure rather than going from friends to intimacy with a guy they've been flirting heavily with for a week or two. </p>
<p>Becoming good friends is not the way to go, and putting all your effort into getting this oen girl to notice you is not the way to go either. </p>
<p>I say this as a joke, but it really can be effective for getting over rejection. Go to the mall and talk to 10 girls with the goal of being rejected by all of them. Say something cheesy and funny, with confidence (head up, shoulders back, chest out, speaking clearly and energetically), such as "Girl you must be tired 'cuz you've been running through my mind all day!" (lol). You'll get over rejection rather quickly... </p>
<p>You set yourself up for failure by putting all your energy into one girl because when she says "no" (and I gotta be honest with you, she probably will if you go the way you're going), it's going to have a stronger effect on you as opposed to if you had just walked up to some random girl at the mall and been rejected.</p>
<p>hmm i think the best tool is being overlooked here
use your friend to introduce yourself, and then start doing things when the oppurtunity presents itself
bekindrewind also offers some good advice and i agree with almost everything he/she has said, including going to the mall or where ever and just practice getting rejected
not only will you soon learn to get over being rejected (which we all are at some point) but you will also learn some of the better ways to break the ice, useful for when you first meet
all in all, good luck and keep us posted on your progress</p>
<p>the thing about my roommate is that he's not that great of friends with her. He's only talked to her twice, which is twice more than me lol. It's not like their great friends or anything or hang out all the time. basically what im saying is that he doesnt know her as well as you guys think.
Anyway.... im gonna meet her sonner or later but im gonna have to wait until the semester begins which is like a month, and i promise no more facebook. And thanks but no thanks on that mall thing....thats like the mtv show; Made. It's not like i cant talk to girls, and i probably can handle rejection.
I dont know why but i cant stop thinking about this girl, and i havent even met her. i used to have crushes before but nothing like this. again thanks for everything guys</p>
<p>I'm sure someone's alluded to this, but you go to college, there are plenty of available people around that you can meet. Frankly it's kind of stupid to spend all this time over a girl that you have a) never met in person, b) have only been "introduced" electronically, and c) is just an acquaintance of a friend. </p>
<p>It'd be different if your friend met her and then introduced you just randomly while both of you happened to be with him, but this kind of "hey you're x and she's x too, you'd probably blah blah blah" is all a little too far out of reality. </p>
<p>Go out and be confident and take the initiative. If the initiative means giving her a call or messaging her on facebook asking if she'd like to have lunch sometime then so be it, but the current circumstances don't make things look all that great.</p>
<p>ok for those of you that still care....heres an update,.
after about three weeks since our little facebook chat...nothing has happened. I completely stopped doing anything on facebook because i dont want to creep her out or anything. I STILL HAVENT MET HER. anyway i asked around and some of my close friends know her...very well. i also found out she was a commuter which really hurts my chances. so since she hangs around these people that i know, im gonna start hangin around with these people, and sooner or later were gonna meet</p>
<p>now i dont want it to be awkward or anything, so how do i start this conversation,
this can happen as soon as wed( my first day of classes) im excited and also terrified because ive been obsessing over her and now i really want to give her a good impression. i went clothes shopping the other day and im also getting a cool new haircut. hopefully everything will go smoothly.....any advice??????????</p>
<p>youre overthinking it. if you have to script things to make a good impression shes going to eventually find out what kind of person you truly are anyways so just be yourself.</p>
<p>lmao, scotch don't overdo it. Girls dont like "nervous" guys, try to be yourself. And if she doesn't like you well try to forget about her. What you're experiencing is pure lust.</p>