<p>i wouldn't suggest he forget her--he hasn't even attempted making a move yet! he should at least put himself out there; then, if he gets rejected, he should move on. but he shouldn't give up without ever actually trying.</p>
<p>Here's my suggestion:</p>
<p>Buy booze, get semi-drunk and call her up. Ask her on a date. If she says yes, drink more in celebration. If she says no, drink out of self-pity. In the morning, everything will be alright <em>Smiley face with thumbs up</em></p>
<p>I suppose that's true leah. And in the future, he should work on making moves rather than doing nothing with a girl for four months.</p>
<p>But it's just that when you wait a real long time like this while doing nothing, the odds are typically not in your favor. A girl has already slotted you as a friend after ingraining you're not interested/ sexual with her. I've found that there is a window of opportunity with girls that you can easily blow. Time is on your side after you sleep with a girl, but time is not your friend before you sleep with her.</p>
<p>Correct me if I'm wrong in your experience, leah. But I talk from the experience of being the hunter, like this guy here, not the hunted.</p>
<p>Dude, I gave you some advice but it sounds like you didn't put it into play this time around. </p>
<p>I'm just gonna be straight forward: it's probably over. With the way you guys casually spend time together and the way you invest money in her without her returning anything to you (by that I mean a sexual relationship as opposed to a friend friendship), she's probably already stuck you into the friend zone permanently. </p>
<p>At this point, if you still can't convince yourself you probably don't have much of a chance anymore, then go ahead and ask her out officially now. See what she says. She might say yes, but unfortunately she probably won't.</p>
<p>If her male best friend comes to you. She is defiantly interested.</p>
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dude...chill LOL it sounds like you have experience, I get what your saying though, I really have to stop obsessing over her. I dont know she just seems soooo perfect. She's attractive, outgoing, smart and she's the same religion as me and were from the same country. I mean...why not right?????
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<p>I def. understand you.</p>
<p>hmm this is interesting haha. </p>
<p>1) she friend requested you. so that's a plus.<br>
2) i wouldn't comment on photos or on her wall. you guys never met so that seems kind of weird. i would stick to facebook chat or messaging every once in a while.<br>
3) wait a few weeks and see if she makes a move.
4) after a few weeks ask for her number.
5) you have time! don't rush it and don't act too interested.<br>
6) just be reasonable.</p>
<p>i don't know--just because i've been friends with a guy for a while doesn't mean i relinquish him to "friend zone" forever. and it doesn't seem like this guy even knows this girl very well, so they don't have to worry about "ruining a great friendship" etc.</p>
<p>if i guy i considered a friend told me he was interested in me, even if i was surprised & had never thought of him that way before, i'd at least consider it.</p>
<p>If I were the girl and I found out about this 'obsession' I would be completely freaked. It seems to me like you're way more into her than she is into you. Calm down and don't over think and over analyze things. If you have to think about every single move you make, that's completely ridiculous and girls can usually tell.</p>
<p>Don't obsess over her, that is seriously just weird. Keep flirting. :b</p>
<p>sorry i didn't read the other pages haha so just ignore my other post. </p>
<p>but quick question... do you have her number? if not i think you can ask for it by now. and then just invite her to a party, a sports game, or some event. </p>
<p>invite her somewhere and see if she asks if you two are going with anyone else. i think that would be a good indicator of whether she sees you as someone to hang with occasionally or someone she wants to get to know better. have fun with it. don't be nervous or obsessive. the worst that can happen is she just wants to be friends. there are plenty of women out there. good luck.</p>
<p>I think you are due for a trip to Macedonia. Might put this whole thing into perspective.</p>
<p>we need another post from OP, this thread is great.</p>
<p>and yeah sorry mate, i'm calling friend zone for you. if it becomes clear that she isn't interested in a relationship you should try to cut down on seeing / thinking about her until you no longer have a crush. break the cycle.</p>
<p>i hope you prove us all wrong</p>
<p>I'd say stop with the facebook and meet her in real life. Arrange some type of meeting with friends and make sure that she goes too. If you are with like 10 other friends, you can easily start a light conversation with her. Once you do that im sure ull be more comfortable to well go further i guess</p>
<p>@ DMan-e</p>
<p>I got the same problem. The thing is you can't stop thinking of her. In my case, I wait all night just to see her online. :(</p>
<p>Wow, you've waited 4 months to make a move? If she at any point felt attracted towards you, it's probably gone by now. I'm not saying don't at least try to make a move, but do it ASAP and don't be surprised if you get rejected as it's incredibly likely at this point. Also, for the love of God, stop obsessing over her. Sure, you feel that she's everything you want and she's even your ethnicity or whatever, but you don't even know this girl yet. There's 3 billion other women in the world and odds are one of them is a better match for you then her, especially considering you don't know this girl all that well yet. Anyways, good luck and I hope it all works out, but don't get your hopes up.</p>
<p>have an arranged marriage</p>
<p>LMAO...ok i cant believe everyone is still commenting on this, its great!!!!!!
anyway, things are going great with this girl. We hang out whenever she comes to school which is three times a week. we still have breakfeast and just recently ive been walking her to class and to her car. I think its time to upgrade and maybe chill off campus or something, she even mentioned going to the city one day. I have one more month with this girl and then she's going on vacation. Im just gonna make a really good impression until then</p>
<p>better goal: stick your dick in her by then</p>
<p>That is, if you're actually heterosexual, at this point I don't know.</p>
<p>ok seriously I have a muslim background and understand you were raised more puritanically, but my god boy, make a move on her. You want to make a "really good impression"? right now her impression of you is that sweet guy who will forever be stuck in "friend zone". Do you wanna be that "breakfast guy" she sees now and then, or her boyfriend? </p>
<p>Wanna make an impression? Give her a smooch on the lips. something to remember you by when she's vacationing on a beach somewhere next month and some guy with balls is hitting on her.</p>
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LMAO...ok i cant believe everyone is still commenting on this, its great!!!!!!
anyway, things are going great with this girl. We hang out whenever she comes to school which is three times a week. we still have breakfeast and just recently ive been walking her to class and to her car. I think its time to upgrade and maybe chill off campus or something, she even mentioned going to the city one day. I have one more month with this girl and then she's going on vacation. Im just gonna make a really good impression until then
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<p>sounds like you're laying a really solid foundation (for listening to her whine about how the dude she nailed won't call her)</p>