<p>There's this guy in one of my classes who I have had the biggest crush on since the start of the semester.
He always comes over and talks to me at the end of the class (I notice him watching to see which way and when I will leave the room), he's always really happy to see me, and at this party, he bought me a drink and we danced together. The only thing is - he kind of stopped dancing with me first - we went from dancing dancing together to him holding my hand and spinning me around. Weird? And I invited him to a party that I was throwing and he RSVPed (on facebook) but then didn't come. When I ran into him later that night, he acted all weird and guilty. What's going on?</p>
<p>The dude could could be shy or something. Why don't you just ask him if he wants to be friends or date or whatever.</p>
<p>You overanalyze. Just ask him on a date or something.</p>
<p>...and if that's too awkward or unconventional for you, tell him you and your friends are going to do something on [weekend] and wouldn't he like to join you? That's less formal and one-on-one than asking on a date, so it would go over a little more naturally.</p>
<p>yea, i would have to say that hes interested</p>
<p>just ask him out on a date. guys usually dont say no to dates if theyre not involved with ne1</p>
<p>Zing!!!. :)</p>
<p>ask him out
no harm done, this isnt high school...if he says no or acts weird again you can just forget about him and since you won't see have to see him every 5 seconds it won't be awful</p>
<p>But why did he stop dancing dancing with me? Why did he want to dance while holding hands and spin me around instead? Isn't that just weird?
And why didn't he come to my party even though he RSVPed?
I ran into him later that night - and I was ****ed off and slightly drunk and I kind of was really rude to him. But even before I opened my mouth and demanded a reason for which he didn't come (in the meanest tone possible - I wouldn't have done this had I been less drunk) , he was acting weird and guilty. What's up with that? And is it really that easy just to simply ask out a guy? What if he isn't interested?</p>
<p>there are a lot of could-be's, or ways to rationalize this. he could be geniuely guilty for not going to your party (for whatever silly reason)....blah blah. </p>
<p>dont be afaird to initiate or show interest first, just because you are a woman.</p>
<p>here's an idea - grow up out of the highschool dating phenomenon, meet him at a party, get excessively drunk, and hook up with him in public. as things start to get too heated up to be viewed by everyone around you, invite him back to your room and witness the phenomenon known as "series of bad decisions leading to a great time." the next morning, assuming one of you didn't wake up first and leave, go to breakfast with him and then start the whole flirty "dating" or "relationship" thing.</p>
<p>i know that sounds really sarcastic, but i'm being very, very serious. this is how relationships and even friendships between people of the opposite sex (or the same sex) start at dartmouth.</p>
<p>"here's an idea - grow up out of the highschool dating phenomenon, meet him at a party, get excessively drunk, and hook up with him in public. as things start to get too heated up to be viewed by everyone around you, invite him back to your room and witness the phenomenon known as "series of bad decisions leading to a great time." the next morning, assuming one of you didn't wake up first and leave, go to breakfast with him and then start the whole flirty "dating" or "relationship" thing.</p>
<p>i know that sounds really sarcastic, but i'm being very, very serious. this is how relationships and even friendships between people of the opposite sex (or the same sex) start at dartmouth."</p>
<p>Well, this works. But to the OP, it doesn't have to be that way for everyone. But I won't deny this approach works.</p>
<p>You're post seemed pretty gay to me until I read the last 2 lines. LMFAO!!! all jokes have a target, but humor with this subtle, sudden malice is well done. nj</p>
<p>just do "it" and get it over with.</p>
<p>Ask him out.</p>
<h1>10 = brilliant post</h1>
<p>I'm not that kind of girl</p>
<h1>10... that's how it works at BC too. i didn't think i was that kinda girl either, but i tried it out this weekend and whuddya know... it worked!</h1>
<p><em>I'm not that kind of girl</em></p>
<p>Glad to hear that, because there are a far too many college women out there who wouldn't hesitate to try such a stunt. It's good to know that some people still have some sort of standards for themselves. </p>
<p>I suspect that people who follow #10s advice stand a much better chance of growing up to be the 35 year old single mothers with 2-3 kids looking for single guys in business suits who'd make good wage slaves. Only problem: more and more men are (finally!) opting-out of marriage & cohabitation.</p>
<p>Hm yes, I agree, mainly because i'm pretty certain that relationships that begin a viewing of Texas Chainsaw Massacre and ice cream afterwards are statisitically proven to last longer than those that begin with a hook up. And people who have a romanticized view of relationships and confuse sex and love (ie, if we're in love we should have sex, or if we had sex, we're in love) are far healthier and more forward thinking when it comes to relationships than people who are smart and mature enough to, the morning after an intimate encounter, discuss seriously whether the relationship is purely physical or whether there's any actual spark there.</p>
<p>guess you being rude to him and demanding answers because he was tired of dancing couldn't possibly have turned him off</p>
<p>K- I have been married a LOONNNG time, and guys, well, most of them don't like dancing all night long, and maybe there were other people he wanted to talk to, maybe he had to go to the little boy's room, maybe his feet hurt, maybe you were too pushy, who knows</p>
<p>One- people RSVP and don't show up all the time, not nice, but you have to give them the benefit of the doubt- an open party you advertised on facebook is not like you had tickets to a concert and he stood you up</p>
<p>Two- demanding to know why he failed to show, in front of others, while drunk and rude, not a good plan</p>
<p>Three- you come across, on this thread at least, as a bit neurotic and needy, maybe this guy was intersted, but you are pushing him away</p>
<p>So, my suggestion is next time you see him, take it slow, apologize for being a bit of a drunken jerk (well you can put it more flatteringly for yourself, but you were), and that you were wondering if he wanted to get some coffee somewhere</p>
<p>I am not trying to be rude, but you did ask, and if you don't chill a little bit, he will disappear</p>