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<p>LOL! garland, I am convinced that you & your H have 10 times more discipline than me (and probably most posters here.) I'd never wish 6 figure loans on a pediatrician in the managed care days. I don't know how you did it.</p>
<p>Our pediatricain was an idealistic, Ivy league educated teacher who went to med school & eventually set up clinics in the slums of Newark, NJ . The "poverty pimps," as he called them, chipped away at his idealism. Luckily for us, we have benefitted from this great guy running a private practice. He still takes on lots of Medicaid patients.</p>
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<p>Very true. You can go to a lower tier school for undergrad, too, and soar.</p>
<p>I think much of the anxiety over which school to choose boils down to disposition. State school grads such as me have encountered many dim-witted Ivy grads in our lifetime. Sometimes that Ivy reputation carries them far beyond their true abilities. I can shug it off. Afterall, don't taller people & beautiful people have advantages that have no connection to their abilities? That's life. But many can't get past this. The inequity really eats away at some people, and class envy can spread through one's psyche like kudzu. Thus the willingness to shoulder crushing debt for a dream school diploma. </p>
<p>Full ride to a state school can be a beautiful thing. Both H & I, who got out of school in the Carter recession years, could never had paid off college debt while facing 25% interest rates on car loans and double digit mortgatge rates. Continuing our education courtesy of the company was another great deal. </p>
<p>Now, with kids approaching college age we can offer them choices that never would have been available to us. Isn't that the American dream, afterall? But being raised by Depression-era parents, I'll really have a hard time shelling out $180,000+. State schools have never held us back. I won't force them on my kids, but I'll need convincing that the elite school is the only place where bright minds come together. So yes, I can definitely see myself in a scenario where I'd tell my kids that I'd pay for this school, but not that school.</p>
<p>side note: My d became aware of Pepperdine because of a local kid heading out that way. Also, I think it's the setting for some teen tv show. Absolutely beautiful campus, merit aid she'd surely qualify for, arts opportunities, etc. But when I realized the United Church of Christ affiliation I said take it off your list. The nasty, anti-Catholic commercials the UCC was running earlier this year soured me forever on PU. As the college search continues, I'm sure many such deal breakers will arise.</p>