Leaving someone you love behind

<p>^while I appreciate your endorsement, if you’re still engaging in this p1ssing match and trying to demonstrate yourself as superior in this meaningless contest, I’m afraid that it seriously calls your maturity into question.</p>

<p>So does your involvement in something completely unrelated to you, other than the fact that it’s in a thread on which you posted (you eliminated any other connection with your “appreciation” of my endorsement).</p>

<p>This could have been an interesting discussion…</p>

<p>^ Don’t feed the ■■■■■ guys. He derails literally every thread he’s in.</p>

<p>He’ll come back with some idiotic response arguing semantics and logical suppositions that mean no sense to anyone but him, including condescending remarks, but it doesn’t take away from the fact that he derails every thread he’s in.</p>

<p>Usually he says an inflammatory remark, then tell everyone they don’t understand him, then refuses to argue while still saying everyone else is wrong.</p>

<p>Even if he’s unintentionally being a ■■■■■, he accomplishes the same purposes of a ■■■■■. He lives in some mystical world far detached from reality, and has a belief set not shared by 99% of the rest of the earth.</p>

<p>Anything he says reminds me of a braying 5 year old trying to get the adults’ attention. I propose we all just ignore his posts entirely in future threads. He is just a derailing ■■■■■ - hell, look at the clothes thread. Always the same embarrassing thing.</p>

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<p>That is totally untrue. I do generally start with an inflammatory remark, then tell people who don’t understand me that they do not understand me. More often than not it’s just a matter of not operating on the same plane of consideration. I don’t refuse to argue unless it’s something that I don’t want to argue about and never made any post indicating otherwise.</p>

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<p>That is definitely not true – there are many people who believe what I do and manage to live on this same planet. You are definitely undermining your own point. Whether my beliefs make sense for society to hold institutionally is something up for debate, for sure. But to say that 99% of the rest of the Earth disagrees with me is factually incorrect. That would be what, 70 million people or so? Given that my religion encompasses over ten times that, I don’t think you have any point there.</p>

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<p>Hardly – I’m sorry that your loss of patience has let you descend into such pathetic and incorrect name-calling, but I guess I should have expected it from your other moronic posts.</p>

<p>He passed the ■■■■■ test for me…</p>

<p>The ■■■■■ test consists of me just skipping everything he wrote because I find everything he says so pointless.</p>

<p>quo erat demonstradum</p>

<p>Baelor, out of curiosity, what religion might that be?</p>

<p>That’s definitely a viable ■■■■■ test.</p>

<p>@Vanechka, one that numbers at least 700 million people.</p>

<p>That does indeed narrow it down, but then you would be assuming that everyone of that religion is as firm in their beliefs as you are.</p>

<p>If you guys aren’t meant to be you will naturally drift apart. You are starting a new part in your life and you have to do what is best for you. Once you get settled in at college and meet all the cool new people you will start to feel better.
I am also going to be a freshman ,but I was in a Long distance relationship all of hs and they are not fun. I regret it. Now that I am starting college, he is here for the summer, but we are already drifting apart. Trust me if you can’t handle the distance it is a lot of pain and hurt to go through to miss someone you care about that much. So if I were you I would accept the future and start fresh in a new part of you’re life. We both have a long way to go and I am pretty sure serious relationships are bad at this age because they do not only hold back seeing other people; but they might even hold back new opportunities (internships, study abroad etc) because usually people will not take these opportunities if they have to be away from their “love”</p>

<p>Just take these years to explore yourself and what you want to end up doing with your life. :)</p>

<p>^I must take issue with this sort of thinking. If one thinks that one is in a relationship which has the potential to become a life partnership, then it makes as much sense to plan for that part of your future as it does to prepare for your career. Mind you, a certain balance must be struck, but it’s not unreasonable to sacrifice in order to be with someone you think you may spend the rest of your life with.</p>

<p>if that is the case.</p>

<p>Well I see your point and everyone has different views.
Some people can take advantage of opportunities while also maintaining a relationship, but this is a minority of people. I personally think it would be best if he let it go.
oh and I mean at the college age!!</p>

<p>You guys are missing out one of the OP’s prior points. A part of his conundrum is seeing his girlfriend with the other guys after he leaves.</p>

<p>Nothing is “meant to be.” Drop that romanticist, Disney ********.</p>

<p>I’m in a similar almost exact situation. Me and BF have been together 14 months by the time i’ll leave to cal. we kindof are bad at brining up the subject because we always end up saying “we’ll talk about it later; we dont want to make decisions before the time comes”. my way of looking at it is this: you cannot predict how it will be come september, you could be totally swept up in your new life/friends/studies and simply not have time to talk or keep up the relationship, or you could find college life alienates you from her whom you associate with your high school life, either of you could mature more quickly and view the other as immature, feelings could change quickly etc. alternatively things could be great and the distance could reinforce your bond, just look out for using eachother as a crutch and keeping away from other friends. you’d hate for one of you to feel “tied down” and not know how to say it. and trust me i totally get how you feel about hating to see her with other guys and not imagining yourself with anyone else-that’s the definition of a serious relationship, however think about this. say you still commit to totally loving her–recognize that you’re basically commiting to FOUR YEARS of a long distance relationship. sure you’ll see eachother on breaks, but is this girl REALLY worth it. and yes, give it time, and you guys can still keep in touch/be a close approximation of friends.</p>

<p>mkapur – that’s the question – can you “still keep in touch and be close approximation of friends”?</p>

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<p>Romani typically does that…jump to conclusions, I mean. </p>

<p>Congrats on being happily married with two kids! How old are they, if I may ask?</p>

<p>Believe me its for the better, the last thing you want when you go off to college is a gf, i wouldnt even want one in college. College is gonna be the best 4 years of your life and being in a commited relationship will ruin that opportunity. There will always be other people in the future, and if your not a partier, then im sure you will find a nice gf in college. What most dont realize that stitisticly high school marriages dont last well, over 50% of them end in divorce. And only going out for 14 months isnt enough for being in luv. I had a friend who is joinin the army and is getting married with his gf who still needs to finish high school, i honestly feel bad for him cause they only went out for half a year and they are plannin all of this. Believe me you may not know it now, but your lucky, you will look at his in the future and not wonder what wouldve happaned, but be glad what happened, happened. My parents, also high school sweet hearts, are about to get divorced, and both my mom and my dad wish they didnt get married right out of high school cause they missed out on a valuable part of there lives. My mom turned down UF to marry my dad who joined the army. In my oppinion getting out of high school single is the best way to go from my parents exsperience. My advice to you is to stop thinking about what she is going to do to guys, and her future BF’s, but to look forward to what your gonna do to girls, and your future GF’s. Just keep your head up and im sure by the time your in college you will be glad of all of this. BTW what college are you going to?
I hope this helped.</p>