Now she's saying she doesn't want to go

<p>My daughter thought it would be a great idea to go to CA for school until senior year, then it was like, "what was I thinking." She knew we would fly her home for every holiday and with us visiting in between, but it was still too far away when the reality set in. She didn't have a boyfriend and all her friends were going out of state. I don't it is just your daughter's BF or friends that are holding her back, maybe she is just not ready to be that far away from home.</p>

<p>yeah, you might be right but what does she expect me to do about the tuition difference our local CC just 6 miles from our house its over 12,000.00 a yr LDSBS is 7432.00 a yr that includes full time, books, dorm and two meals a day, thats for members. its the same amount as our local CC for non members.</p>

<p>Also she knows about the finances and the difference in the tuition between our local CC and the LDSBS tuition, she might have to wait to go to college until shes ready to go out of state.</p>

<p>Community college is a very good option. She could live at home, commute to school, and hold down a part time job. If finances are an issue, look into schools offering merit money and need based financial aid. Don't send her across the country to a college just because of the cheap price. It's not worth it--especially if it's not what she wants. There are other options. Get your financial papers in orders--call the financial aid dept. of one of your instate public colleges and ask questions. They will be more than happy to answer all of your questions and they may be able to give you a ball park figure of a possible financial aid package from their school.</p>

<p>My oldest daughter filled out FASF paper for the CC she didnt qualify for aid because of the income we have she is waiting for next fall because shes been on her own for 2 yrs by then she wont have to go by our income. If it was a University she would have qualified for money im sure.</p>

<p>Also she dont want to go to the local CC she wants to go to a University .</p>

<p>I am certain that few will agree--but I would have her apply to BYU. I would also, at the same time, have her apply to the schools she is interested in and also start looking for scholarships and such. Until there are acceptances and all information is on the table it is not "real". I would not spend time arguing that she HAS to go to BYU but would want the acceptance in case she changes her mind.
Good luck</p>

<p>Yes, LDS business School.</p>

<p>I agree that D should apply to BYU as well as a number of other colleges and also apply for financial aid. The whole matter can then be peacefully considered over the coming months.</p>

<p>You are not qualified for aid and the only school you could afford for her to go to is BYU?</p>

<p>LDS Business School is a 2 yr college shes excepted we dont have to worry about that part....she will not get aid .</p>

<p>So, you were banking on the fact since middle schools she's want to go to BYU, therefore you never considered any other options? My daughter changed her mind 2 weeks before we were suppose to send in the deposit to her dream school. I personally don't think it is fair to your daughter that you structured your finance in such a way her only options is BYU or CC.</p>

<p>LOL,......ok please dont reply if you dont have the time to read the whole two pages please repeat question OR assumtions , this is feeling redundant. </p>

<p>Excuss this comment for anyone that has :)</p>

<p>Sorry, I didn't catch the 2 yr business school part. So, why don't you use a calculator to figure out how much you are required to contribute (maybe it will be less than what you would need to pay for BYU) and apply to other universities.</p>

<p>Oh my ! My daughters both changed their minds, no only about where to go, but what to study. One started as wanting to go into political science and go Ivy...she studies studio television and production at Emerson..the other never even dreamed of deciding anything until late in high school.
They grow and change so much in the years between middle and high school. I am not a big fan or forcing this or that college. I have seen it backfire many times over.</p>

<p>Will she consider instate public universities? She'll get the full college experience--dorms on campus, campus community, activities, chance to meet new people with different backgrounds, and instate tuition price. If her grades and SAT/ACT scores are good enough, she may get some merit aid. You keep mentioning that she will not get financial aid. I'll take your word on that and hope that you've seriously looked into the matter. Tell her that you will contribute a certain amount of money (let's say, for example--$10,000 to $12,000/yr) and she will have to work towards the rest. Many high school guidance office's have applications for private scholarships but in order to qualify, the student must go down to the office and get the applications, fill them out, write essays, and sometimes interview. She could get a part time job now and start earning money for her personal expenses and books. Let her know that you will do your best to help her financially but she must be willing to do her part also. Let her know the exact amount that you will contribute. </p>

<p>Honestly, I went to the website of LDS business school. In my opinion, I wouldn't spend $7,000+/yr on that school. I sure wouldn't travel 1500 miles to attend. Just my opinion of course.</p>

<p>Has your D considered applying to BYU or BYU-Idaho? Both offer tuition discounts for members of the Mormon church, are very strongly established (honestly, I grew up in SLC and have NEVER heard of ldsbc), and offer four year experiences.</p>

<p>Note: The OP isn't talking about BYU , but LDS-affiliated two-year college)</p>

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<p>Wow. Way to minimize your daughter's feelings. </p>

<p>Sounds to me as if you don't want any ideas for dealing with the situation; you just want to vent and not do anything different from what you've been planning all along: send your daughter to a two-year college far away from home. There are other options, but why bother posting them? Your mind's made up!</p>

<p>that college! thats where they/us attend church......</p>

<p>why would I want her to attend a college with parties every weekend , im not paying for the bells and whistles.</p>

<p>LDSBS is right in temple square , just do a search its right there.</p>

<p>Well its a two yr college and its not as important as the last two yrs she attends.</p>

<p>you dont pay my bills and neither does she my daughter.</p>