<p>G Talum posted" Take your mom to only 1 more AL and have her pick one. She has already said she is disgruntled with everything and has derogatory things to say about you and your efforts, so dont expect differently. Just stay focused. When she has moved, tell her you can handle the house sale only if she signs POA to you to handle it all. Do NOT run decisions by her (eg real estate agent, price, etc). YOU handle it without her input.</p>
<p>Time is of the essence and you probably dont want to waste $. So staging is likely a waste too. We sold my dads house with his old furniture in it. Got a lot of junk out of there. But did not paint, garden or any of that. Yes they rearranged furniture after thinning stuff out. Thats all the “staging”. I was long distance. Did minimal to sell it (and in the worst market).</p>
<p>Do not get caught on all these tangents. stay focused on the primary important things- (1) get her moved and (2) sell the house."</p>
<p>Exactly right and good to hear.By the way, my mother keeps the house immaculate and no staging is needed at all. I will follow your advice. And of course as you noticed, I have difficulty getting focused. But at the same time I am fulfilling correctly copious tax documents for the employee, staying atop of payroll and myriad of other details, besides giving my children sufficient love , food, engagement, and attention. My three daughters need me, and though circumstances are far from ideal, I am a great listener, encourager , and supportive ally, besides shepardig them to their myriad play dates and fu things. </p>
<p>It is a strange fact of life and probably extraordinary to most that an adult (me) approaching SS-age eligibility needs so much pep talk and so much feedback regarding this cross-in-the-road in my life, direction and guidance. I won’t post online in public, but if anyone cares to know how competently and extraordinarily I dealt with a life crisis in 1993, and a lesser but formidable crisis in 2008, I will tell you, and you will understand that I am not, as i fear I come across, a complete loser. After 57 years, latent issues with my mother have caused me to seize up when, during much more difficult crises, I held up magnificently. I saved my husband’s life in 1993 and completely rebuilt his self esteem and confidence in the future because of a traumatic event. PM me if you want to know…no big deal. I don’t want to boast, but i don’t want to come across as as an idiot failure.</p>