<p>Sometimes it’s far more than simply being about the boyfriend. It could have been about the money, the location, etc. She probably thought about the benefits of staying in state than going away.</p>
<p>She could have gone away to school, then she would have two bfs:)</p>
<p>she made the right choice, (pssst, you made the right choice, most people say “their friend because they don’t want to admit they did it”) because now she can get a higher GPA, would you rather a 3.0 from a university or a 3.8 from a college?</p>
<p>Usually not, but a boyfriend who knows you very well can help you decide the types of colleges are best for you (large college versus small, etc).</p>
<p>Ya its stupid but she is going to make bad decisions and no one can stop her but her. When a girl is in a relation either the man or her is in charge. When the man is incharge which is usually, the woman who is a natural follower, will do whatever he says. I meet countless women in their 30s who are now divorced and talk about how they followed their husbands into… and how it screwed them. O well their fault</p>
<p>I’m stuck in a kind of similar weird situation. I live in Baltimore City, so if I get into Johns Hopkins I’ll get to go all four years for free, and by my sophomore year or so I’ll have my own house and car(parents going to canada…long story) and, of course, a free education. But my boyfriend(of over a year and half) is going next year, and I feel as though a lot of people think that is going to effect my decision of where I apply to. I’ve looked at UPenn, UMass, and not really anywhere else, but a big part of me wants to just apply early-decision(and boost my chances) to Hopkins because, even though I’m not in love with it, I don’t want to apply regular decision to a bunch of schools and then have to make a decision I don’t know how to make. I haven’t fallen in love with anywhere(academics at UPenn amazing, but I dont know about the whole Ivy thing[if I could even get in] and UMass I really liked the atmosphere but I dunno about the academics), and Hopkins just seems like the most logical place to go, and I do really like the school/academics, and I haven’t lived in Baltimore long so I’m not bothered by “staying close to home”. What do people think? I’m scared of liking Hopkins too much because it seems too perfect, so I dunno if that’s why I’m not in love with it or if it’s something else.</p>
<p>Stupid, stupid idea, this is YOUR time kids, time for you to grow and learn all about yourself, meet lots of new people and develop into fantastic adults. Basing your college choice on whether you’ll be near bf is dumb, unless it’s the school of your dreams.</p>
<p>Informal poll…all you ladies out there who are DONE with college…are you still with your HS boyfriend?</p>
<p>NO…college bf yes, thank God not the HS bf!</p>
<p>I am between Rice University and Trinity University in Texas. I have been dating my boyfriend for 15 months as of tomorrow and he is about to finish his freshman year of college at Trinity University. I personally agree with some of the people who say if a relationship cannot survive long distance it is doomed;however, I know my relationship can survive long distance. This year we have done it and I know if I go to Rice our relationship will continue just as strong as ever. He is extremely supportive of me and my decision and wants what is best for me. My issue is I want to be happy in college and I know that I am at my happiest when I am with him. I don’t want to do long distance anymore not because of the distance and the difficulty of it, but because I want to be happy and I don’t think I will be as happy at rice without him there. Is that wrong of me? There is also a price difference (trinity will probably be cheaper but not by a ridiculous amount) and I want to major in Neuroscience. If my research is correct Rice only has a minor for neuroscience but trinity does have a neuroscience major and they are still an excellent university.</p>
<p>Take your boyfriend completely out of the picture for a minute. Which school is best for you if he didn’t exist?</p>
<p>Trinity is marginally cheaper and has your major. What are Rice’s advantages? Prestige? Are there other plusses to Rice?</p>
<p>I don’t believe you should choose a college because your boyfriend goes there. I also don’t think you should AVOID a college because your boyfriend goes there.</p>
<p>That is exactly the battle I have been having with myself. I can’t remember any good reasons for going to Rice except the prestige and the quality education. I don’t think prestige is that important and the education at trinity, while not as well known is incredible. I have also heard Rice doesn’t accept much ap credit which trinity does. Is this something I should consider?</p>
<p>Thank you so much. You have told me exactly what I have felt. While I feel like everyone thinks I want to go to trinity just for my boyfriend I do have other reasons for wanting to go there and if in the end we broke up I truly believe I would be happy with my decision of trinity because it is an exceptional, overlooked institution.</p>
<p>Prestige can be over-rated but don’t completely discount it, because it CAN be very helpful when job hunting. </p>
<p>Rather than saying “I’ve heard Rice doesn’t accept much AP credit,” do some more research. Comb their website, and if you can’t find the answer, call their admission office. Be sure you know what each school actually offers in terms of your desired major. Also keep in mind that most students change their major in college. Do you have any ideas what other things might interest you, if you decide neuroscience isn’t “it” for you - biology? psychology? business? Be sure you know that you will have alternatives at whichever school you choose.</p>
<p>It sounds like you are trying to make a wise decision for your future. Good luck to you!</p>
<p>Thank you! :)</p>
<p>Maria:</p>
<p>My tough advice to you is to jettison the boyfriend.</p>
<p>College is a time for you to grow as a person, and to date new people.</p>
<p>I would go to Rice.</p>
<p>You shouldn’t be continuing your relationship at this young age.</p>
<p>I know that is not what you want to hear though.</p>
<p>That’s exactly why you need to hear it.</p>
<p>This thread is three years old. It’s best to start a new thread.</p>
<p>We say that “Love is blind”… This is one example…! I salute this girl… But then, sometimes the world can be bitter… so I wish her all the best and hope she only finds best experiences…! What else can be said and done ?</p>