<p>I am here to say NO I have not sent in the tuition, and YES he was allowed to register for classes, whether or not you choose to believe that is completly up to you. We have only given the initial deposit but not paid the actual tuition bill. However again he was able to register for classes and receive his dorm assignment and roommate. Perhaps different schools do it differently.YES tuition bills are due, we just actually received it. You cannot change classes unless you have deposited for the fall. I am NOT a supernanny and this is not in any way a "fake" situation. I have spilled out my heart and I am grateful to many of you who have been so kind and caring and offered sound advice that really empowered me when I needed it.
I didn't know what you were talking about with regard to another post acting as my son until I just looked and saw that he made another post under my account. I have asked that he get his own but frankly just the fact that he is taking interest again in something positive made me smile....(I am sure even for this comment I am bound to receive more negative criticism) I ask that you refrain from being too harsh, judgemental or negative....believe me I have had my share and enough to last me awhile.
The situaiton is exactly what it is; and to those who have been here to support and encourage me, and sometimes to dish out some advice which was hard to swallow but gave me new hope......I thank you.</p>
<p>Good luck. I don't think it's odd that you haven't paid tution yet. My daughter has registered for her fall classes and received her fall dorm room assignment, but her tuition bill isn't due for about two more weeks. At her college, fall tuition is due two weeks before fall classes start. (If you don't pay by then, you get "dropped" from your classes.) </p>
<p>My daughter is not going to GW but she and I looked at the Mount Vernon campus of GW, by the way. I think that the Vern would be a fairily calm location with a close-knit peer group, potentially a very nice place to spend one's freshman year if you are taking mostly the core classes, many of which are offered right there.</p>
<p>My son's fall account isn't due until two days before school starts and he has been registered for two months. When I was last in college (about 10 years ago), one could register for classes and would be dropped if payment was not received by the first day of class.</p>
<p>Gosh, my son registered back in April and tuition is due third week of September. Classes start right after Labor day. Just like last year.</p>
<p>You don't have to pay for an experience that he may not be ready for. I think getting him away for a month would be the best thing, whether he be depressed, afraid, or merely unmotivated. Then you can get him therapy or guidance.</p>
<p>We have decided that we think he is in fact ready for what that is worth. I am from the ilk that believes that probably 95% of the parents out there are not 100% sure their kids are ready for college without some reservations, doubts or some sense of anxiety about their child being on their own,etc....in fact we have seen the few parents we knew who were so confident that their kids were totally ready and in fact I must say with a little envy that they did "seem" like the poster kids for college bound freshman. Unfortunately three of those kids, each ran into big problems. One for the first time learned what partying was and lost dorm privileges for alcohol in the room, the other got expelled from college because of plagiarism and bad grades and the third is on probation because she didn't show up to classes for weeks and was sleeping in after long long nights of partying. One of these kids was my boss's son who is now looking at a local community college!
It is a chance that we are taking that my son could be one of those kids OR he may surprise us as he has often done, when he sets his mind to something and really excel and shine. ( my great hope). Many of us who know him best are thinking this is exactly what he will do..........I sure hope so. FYI he is in therapy twice a week and its helping quite a bit.
We have made very clear what our expectations are in exchange for us footing this outrageous bill of tuition, he is fully aware of what he has to do.
If he does not comply, he will be on his own and have to figure out what to do with his life..........we will know we exhausted every opportunity. If he complies, then it will be our pleasure to continue to support him. That is how we are proceeding at this point.........crossing our fingers not only for ourselves but all parents sending their own 18 year old off to the mystery land of college!</p>
<p>ct, best of luck to you. </p>
<p>finger's crossed it all goes well and let us know from time to time.</p>
<p>My fingers are crossed along with yours, ctmom! I think you are doing the right thing to send him, but with clear expectations.</p>
<p>Hi ctmomof3,
I just wanted to give you some encouragement and add that sometimes boys mature in leaps and bounds (kind of a mental growth spurt!) If your son has turned a corner, you may see a great deal of positive change from here on out. I hope that's the case for your family, and that your trust is rewarded.</p>
<p>One little trick my in-laws used on a son, who was a capable student but never seemed to complete his programs, was this: the son had to put all his savings towards the tuition. At the end of a successfully completed semester, the parents refunded the money. If he didn't finish, well, that was his dough that went down the drain. Simple, but effective, and it worked all the way through law school.</p>
<p>Why not send your son into wilderness therapy for teens. This could help your son to understand their problems and to develop self-awareness and take responsibility. He could also gained self-esteem and self confidence. So that, after going into therapy he could pursue his dreams and ready to go to college.</p>
<p>This thread is more than two years old.</p>
<p>This sounds exactly like my son in every aspect, except for the heavy partying. His first semester turned into a giant computer gamer vacation. Pretty expensive and he used up all the money his grandparents saved for his college education. We knew he wasn’t ready for college, but felt that it would be a good learning experience for him and he really needed the time on his own. Definitely going to be a long haul.</p>