<p>I get what your saying WaWa which is why I suggested that much of what cbug describes seems like normal behavior. However, the constellation of behaviors is concerning, but maybe not. But, my DS would certainly torpedo his GPA and quit a job (I don’t think he just wouldn’t show up) if he had a paid or unpaid opportunity that would help his career aspirations. In addition, his roommate always reminded him to pay rent. He is now, shortly after graduation, in another city, in a professional job, and self supporting. Thank goodness he again lives with women who will remind him to pay rent!</p>
<p>OP ~ life is teaching him. And that is what you want. I would dis-engage yourself.</p>
<p>You do not know how long he sleeps-in at college, and can really not make any judgement about whether he uses his time productively. Even so, it’s not your business.</p>
<p>He should borrow if he can to stay and finish school, or maybe remain in the college town and finish part time while working - all depending on what he can afford. I don’t even pay attention to issues of students ‘losing scholarships’. I think that means very little. The university knows from their statistics if he was even likely to keep the scholarship. I’m a bit of a skeptic, but honestly, it could be he was never likely to keep it.</p>
<p>You shouldn’t encourage him to move back home - you’ll just continue to mother-him. You don’t have to be joint on his bank account. Again, dis-engage where you can. He’ll be alright (but it may not be pretty)</p>