<p>"First, my kids would not forgive me for reading these posts. "</p>
<p>That may be true, but at the same time it would reflect their naivate. Anyone who posts on the Internet is posting for anyone in the world to see. This includes future employers, their grandparents, their romantic partners' parents, etc. Posting about one's sex life, drinking, gambling, etc. is just plain stupid (and I say this as a mom who accidentally found my older S's blog, that contained all sorts of inappropriate things).</p>
<p>While the OP's S may be embarrassed/angry about having his parents see the blog, by being honest with him, the OP would be helping her S realize the impact of his behavior including the stupidity of publishing it on the Internet. In addition, she'd be doing everything possible to help save him from the potentially even fatal consequences of his actions. Having her kid get angry at her for her being concerned about his Internet blog is the least of her worries. </p>
<p>While blogs can be exaggerated, it also is very possible that what is on the blog is true. When I found S's blog, I showed it to my H, who thought that it was an exaggeration. Based on various things in the blog, I didn't feel it was an exaggeration, and it ended up that I was right. The blog was totally shocking to us because before S went to college, he by choice had no social life -- either was at home, school or work. He didn't even drive, so we had to drive him around, so really did know where he was. His life totally changed in college even though we couldn't tell from his phone calls or even from visiting him.</p>
<p>Anyway, I advise you to tell your husband, and then go to a family counselor who has worked with families of college students. That would be the best way for you and your H to figure out how to handle this very painful, difficult situation. I do agree with some who have posted here suggesting that you cut off any discretionary funds/credit cards you have been giving him. If he has to work to pay for his "hobbies," he may straighten up quite a bit.</p>
<p>Also, know you aren't alone, and it would not be a good idea to keep this info a secret or blame yourself. My H and I have been surprised how many people we know -- nice people, good parents, etc. -- have had some major problems with an offspring (typically a son) who no one would have imagined would have gotten gone off track.</p>
<p>What gives me hope is that I also know at least 3 middle aged adult males who when they were my S's age (23) were acting just like S. All 3 are now college professors or instructors. All are good family men. One is also youth minister at his church, and started a nonprofit, and has written an award-winning fictional book with a religious theme. Another wrote a best seller. Another recently took an early retirement after having a highly successful and lucrative career as a business professor. No indication any of them have disreputable lifestyles. So, there's hope.</p>
<p>Feel free to PM me, too.</p>