<p>I’m sorry for not getting back sooner. Twice I tried to post and it vanished. Anyway, I have been on this forum before, but chose a new name for this problem.</p>
<p>I want to thank everyone who posted on here from the bottom of my heart. You have made me feel like I really can deal with this problem. I have read every single post. </p>
<p>To clear up a few things. My son is out of the country with family. It is not glamorous thing. He has a job here. This makes the money situation hard. He works for his money (including during the school year) but I think he manages money very poorly. He recently opened a credit card in his name, which he knew would not be okay with us. My friend says on line gambling has been shut down. I wish I knew if this were true. There is no evidence of drug use. Also, yes, he is a kid who was perfect in high school. No trouble at all and nice friends. So this is all new for us.</p>
<p>I will be honest here. I have not told my husband about this, and I might not. I am not only protecting him, but I also feel very guilty about this whole thing and I just don’t want to entangle him too. I guess I am the self-appointed family protector. Maybe I need to evaluate that!</p>
<p>I am going to send him a letter to tell him I read the blog. We will talk about it when he gets home. He will be very upset (embarrassed) and I feel bad about that. (Not that bad though.) I will be armed with some “suggestions.” I want him to change a few things in the fall in hopes of meeting a different group of friends. This will be hard. I will demand that the credit card be closed. I also want him to go to the counseling center at school. Perhaps he can take his blog with him. (Maybe I will print it out.) </p>
<p>My friend suggested I read a book called Critical Conversations. I am going looking for that today.</p>
<p>I’m still struggling to figure out how much of this is “normal” teenage angst, how much is really serious, and whether or not he will find his own way out.</p>
<p>I was a great keeper of diaries when I was young. Good thing I could throw them away. In this case I sure do wish I could “unknow.”</p>
<p>Thanks again for your kind thoughts, for sharing your experiences, and for understanding all the ups and downs of raising kids. I remember my mother once saying to me, “Brace yourself for when they disappoint you.” It took a long time, but here it is.</p>