<p>Damn dude, that chick occasionally looks at you from across the room, she would so let you sleep with her if you made a comment.</p>
<p>I definitely agree with idamayer. Self-confidence is definitely the main factor in this shyness or intimidation factor. All it boils down to is simply how good do you feel about yourself, for both genders. I'd say general advice for both sides regarding the origional question:
Girls: Just smile and be friendly. If the guy doesn't seem to want to go up to you than you can always go up to him. The guy is probably more intimidated than you think.
Guys: Just go talk to her. I used to be pretty intimidated by girls, but really after talking to them more and more there really is no reason to, they are generally friendly enough.</p>
<p>Is it hard to find like datable guys in college, like do people actually date or just hook up? I was thinking it would be easier because there arent any restrictions like there were in high school and the guys should be a bit more mature and open-minded...eugh lol im just scared ill go through these next 4 yrs w/o getting close to a bf tyoe at all.</p>
<p>sorry repeat</p>
<p>Well I am a senior in HS right now, but I am pretty sure people still date, most of my friends already in college do have an exclusive girlfriend... And I think us guys will be more mature, I would think it'd be tough to go in the opposite direction as I think back on all the dumb stuff that I did in High School</p>
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<p>Hahaha, nice.</p>
<p>And I'm not a guy, but I'd imagine that it'd be rather hard to really decide one certain way on your question: I mean, it depends on the guy, and what he's like, and what you happen to be doing, or how you happen to look...it's kind of unpredictable. Only surefire way to seem friendly?</p>
<p>Talk to them. Simple as that. Smile and laugh at their jokes, make eye contact, etc etc.</p>
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<p>I've found, however, that competetive business major *****es aren't as nice as psychology/sociology/humanity major girls. In my psychology class, the girls are generally really cool... In my management class, the girls are generally snooty and competetive wich constant smug faces.</p>
<p>I would be too intimidated to approach a girl like that randomly. Like some others said, I would have to have a good reason for it.</p>
<p>Okay guys, here's my two cents: Just go up to her like you would a guy and just talk. Sure, girls have some key differences over boys, but remember that they're as human as a guy. If you want to ask her out, go ahead...but I'd make sure I got to know her first. No use dating someone whose beliefs are much different than yours unless you're one of these people who tolerates everything.</p>
<p>Something that helps is to have a few good female friends who are just friends (not girlfriends). That way you can see just how easy it is to talk to a girl and she may even be able to offer you advice--I've had to give one of my best girl friends some advice on guys before so it can go the other way...you may find that these girls are easier to talk to than your guy friends. In high school, the girls I was close friends with probably knew me on a deeper level than my best guy friends...trust me, they are usually more understanding of things. I've found that of all my high school friends, the most meaningful relationship of all of them was with a girl, who pretty much became my "little sister". We never dated, but loved each other as friends.</p>
<p>As far as major and selection goes (yeah, that didn't sound right, I know), you'll find good girls, bad girls, snobby girls, Christian girls, vegetarian girls, lesbian girls, girls from other countries...anything...in any major. Especially because most schools have more girls than guys. It is proven, however, that you will find more girls in interior design and elementary education than other majors.</p>
<p>I need to find some friends in the first place before I even worry about females. Or at least friends who are not always out at other places whenever I want to go out.</p>
<p>do you think good looking guys have insecurities like these also about going upto girls?</p>
<p>Sigh. This thread is a great example of misadvice. gnrgurl, since your username bears the name of a legendary band, and you genuinely seem like a kind person, I'll try to be as nice as possible.</p>
<p>Your friends and family tell you you're attractive. Think about the significance of that for a second. What do you expect? That they would instead call you ugly and hideous to your face? You could be a member of a traveling freakshow and they would still compliment your appearance. They're your friends and family for a reason, after all.</p>
<p>Your actual dilemna is caused by anything but insecure guys. I mean, does this honestly make any sense? That a super hot girl would get virtually no attention from guys, and they would instead focus on uglier girls? </p>
<p>This has never, ever been the case in any social situation I've observed, regardless of how confident or nerdy the group of guys are. </p>
<p>If you're a very attractive girl, you WILL be getting a ton of male attention, regardless of whether you never make any eye contact, spit on them during the conversation, or wear combat boots. </p>
<p>Now, without any more details, and not knowing what you look like, I have no clue why guys don't come up to you.</p>
<p>But it's not because they are awed speechless by your beauty.</p>
<p>GracieLegend, I'm not offended at all. I came here for advice, not an ego boost... just honesty.</p>
<p>The thing is, without sounding conceited, I KNOW I am attractive. I just can't ever figure out the stares I get from guys. They just stare at me! But then they don't ever say anything.</p>
<p>I was just wondering the various reasons behind those stares and who best to ask than the guys on this board. That is all.</p>
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<p>Could very well be. I know that I get intimidated whenever I see a pretty girl in a class or something. I automatically think in my head 'she is a little out of my league, forget it'.</p>
<p>indian, u said </p>
<p>"I'm sick of my personality. Let me explain. AP Chemistry - a girl sits on the other side of the room and has been checking me out all year. I haven't had the balls to talk to her yet. A girl sitting right next to me has been checking me out for like 3 months. I've talked to her for like 1 sentence. These aren't nerdy girls either, they're smart extremely attractive ones. I'm not intimidated, it's really that I don't know what to say ....."</p>
<p>man, i agree, im gonna wait till college, and im sick of having girls in almost all my classes checking me out, me checking them out, eye contact, smiling, looking into the eyes (hehe, i love that part) and then not saying anything to them ....</p>
<p>AAAHHH!! maybe if the girl came to talk first ... it would help, A LOT!!</p>
<p>eh .... i have one question, please dont mind, its for the girls</p>
<p>what do girls think of guys who dont have a great sense of clothing. not much variety, same colors (for me, i literally wear blue 85%of the time .... haha, and then one fine random day, totally out of the blue, i switch to brigth yellow ... i have no clue what im doing ... )</p>
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you'll find good girls, bad girls, snobby girls, Christian girls, vegetarian girls [......] lesbian girls
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<p>Not sure how much luck you're going to have with a lesbian girl if you're a guy.</p>
<p>;)</p>
<p>lala56, lack of a variety of colors in your wardrobe doesn't exactly mean you don't have a good sense of style. As far as style, my friends and I don't really notice a guy's sense of style unless he is VERY well dressed to the point that it stands out... like metrosexuals. We check out and notice what girls wear most of the time. However, I know that if I like a guy or think he is cute and I have seen him around a lot, I will take interest in his style. But usually it is something I don't notice on a regular basis.</p>
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Could very well be. I know that I get intimidated whenever I see a pretty girl in a class or something. I automatically think in my head 'she is a little out of my league, forget it'.
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<p>And gnrgurl, I hate to say this, but GracieLegend is more than likely correct. It's not that you're UGLY, it's just...you might not be quite as pretty as you think you are? Maybe you're misreading the stares? People [particulary girls, I'm guilty of it too] tend to misread things a lot when it comes to the opposite sex.</p>
<p>How about gnrgurl just posts a picture so we can settle this thing. In all honesty, I do know pretty girls who are not talked to much by guys many times due to being slightly reserved or just not as outgoing as others.</p>